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“Be a Lady” They Said

By Unknown Author on Friday January 12th, 2018

“Be a Lady” They Said…

Remove your body hair. Shave your legs. Shave your armpits. Shave your bikini line. Wax your face. Wax your arms. Wax your eyebrows. Get rid of your mustache. Bleach this. Bleach that. Lighten your skin. Tan your skin. Eradicate your scars. Cover your stretch marks. Tighten your abs. Plump your lips. Botox your wrinkles. Lift your face. Tuck your tummy. Thin your thighs. Tone your calves. Perk up your boobs. Look natural. Be yourself. Be genuine. Be confident. You’re trying too hard. You look overdone. Men don’t like girls who try too hard.

“Be a Lady” They Said…

Wear makeup. Prime your face. Conceal your blemishes. Contour your nose. Highlight your cheekbones. Line your lids. Fill in your brows. Lengthen your lashes. Color your lips. Powder, blush, bronze, highlight. Your hair is too short. Your hair is too long. Your ends are split. Highlight your hair. Your roots are showing. Dye your hair. Not blue, that looks unnatural. You’re going grey. You look so old. Look young. Look youthful. Look ageless. Don’t get old. Women don’t get old. Old is ugly. Men don’t like ugly.

“Be a Lady” They Said…

Save yourself. Be pure. Be virginal. Don’t talk about sex. Don’t flirt. Don’t be a skank. Don’t be a whore. Don’t sleep around. Don’t lose your dignity. Don’t have sex with too many men. Don’t give yourself away. Men don’t like sluts. Don’t be a prude. Don’t be so uptight. Have a little fun. Smile more. Pleasure men. Be experienced. Be sexual. Be innocent. Be dirty. Be virginal. Be sexy. Be the cool girl. Don’t be like the other girls.

Will I ever be enough?Will I ever be enough?

“Be a Lady” They Said…

Don’t talk too loud. Don’t talk too much. Don’t take up space. Don’t sit like that. Don’t stand like that. Don’t be intimidating. Why are you so miserable? Don’t be a bitch. Don’t be so bossy. Don’t be assertive. Don’t overact. Don’t be so emotional. Don’t cry. Don’t yell. Don’t swear. Be passive. Be obedient. Endure the pain. Be pleasing. Don’t complain. Let him down easy. Boost his ego. Make him fall for you. Men want what they can’t have. Don’t give yourself away. Make him work for it. Men love the chase. Fold his clothes. Cook his dinner. Keep him happy. That’s a woman’s job. You’ll make a good wife someday. Take his last name. You hyphenated your name? Crazy feminist. Give him children. You don’t want children? You will someday. You’ll change your mind.

“Be a Lady” They Said…

Don’t get raped. Protect yourself. Don’t drink too much. Don’t walk alone. Don’t go out too late. Don’t dress like that. Don’t show too much. Don’t get drunk. Don’t leave your drink. Have a buddy. Walk where it is well lit. Stay in the safe neighborhoods. Tell someone where you’re going. Bring pepper spray. Buy a rape whistle. Hold your keys like a weapon. Take a self-defense course. Check your trunk. Lock your doors. Don’t go out alone. Don’t make eye contact. Don’t bat your eyelashes. Don’t look easy. Don’t attract attention. Don’t work late. Don’t crack dirty jokes. Don’t smile at strangers. Don’t go out at night. Don’t trust anyone. Don’t say yes. Don’t say no.

Just “be a lady” they said.

– Author Unknown

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18 Comments on "“Be a Lady” They Said"

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Gabrielle
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Gabrielle

Well said!!

Brooklyn
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Brooklyn

Great job. I feel like this is the best representation of what women constantly think about. We are always told to be one way, yet judged for it right after.

Old Soul,
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Old Soul,
Reality and the painful points bringing the forgotten wisdom. Humans, we did not learn from the past from the Ones that came close to understanding the aspects of sexiual culture, and established logical common sense. Every Era when was rising from ashes came up with new ideologies, to include specifically religions, kidnaped the freedom of the logical common sense by creating new trend, taboo, manipulating mentally next generations to control and shame people. Now we are again at the threshold of collapse, humans are in distress, unsure of their identity or correctness. One, as an individual, must cherish uniqueness and… Read more »
Laurie
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Laurie

Wild to see it all written! No wonder we feel so crazy! So many confusing messages our whole lives.

Karina
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Karina

With all these contradictory statements – how is any young woman or any woman as a matter of fact to ‘know’ how to be? We can’t know how to be until we connect with ourselves deeply and feel our true essence. When we connect to that and learn to live it, none of that will touch us as in true connection, we live our innate wisdom and beingness.

Ada zelter
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Ada zelter

I didn’t learn ever I just do what ever I feel like. Even dow I get influenced by all of this. Ppl will always judg you. Even ourself judg always anyone and ourself. Better to ignor everything and do what u feel in that moment. Present moment. It’s what u are ready for. Thanks for this article. It makes it clear.

Jan
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Jan

Very well said ! Every word of this article . I am not a concieted young woman though i here enough of the constant NOISE surrounding me at times that being said i am just me & can only be every one else is taken lol . We as confident , stong in mind body & spirit should not bow to any such bull shit . Its over rated 🙏💚🙏

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