The Ancient Hawaiian Practice of Forgiveness

By Jonathan Davis on Wednesday September 5th, 2018

Ho'oponopono Can Help Restore Harmony within, and with Others

When I first encountered the practice known as Ho’oponopono, it was in an interview with Haleaka Hew Len PhD, a Hawaiian psychologist, and shamanic practitioner. I took on the simple yet profound forgiveness practice and found immediate benefits in my personal life.

Ho’oponopono: I’m sorry, please forgive me, thank you, I love you.

What is Ho’oponopono?

On the surface level, many people have understood Ho’oponopono to be a mantra where one repeats the words ‘I’m sorry, please forgive me, thank you, I love you’ as a form of mental and spiritual cleaning that could be compared to Buddhist techniques for clearing karma. It has been defined as a forgiveness and reconciliation practice, cleansing of ‘errors of thought’–the origin of problems and sickness in the physical world, according to the Hawaiian worldview. The literal translation is ‘to put to right; to put in order or shape, correct, revise, adjust, amend, regulate, arrange, rectify, tidy up, make orderly or neat.”

The mantra at the heart of Ho'oponoponoThe mantra at the heart of Ho’oponopono.

At first glance, I found it hard to remember the order of the words or even discern if there was a specific order for them at all, so I tried them in every possible combination as well as repeating them on their own. I chanted them over and over in the hope of discovering whether they were useful in some way and if so, what was it about these words that made them helpful.

As I did so, I found that many questions arose, with different questions coming up depending on the order I said them. “Why should I be sorry? What do I have to be sorry for? What do I need forgiveness for, in this moment and in my life? What do I have to be grateful for? When I say ‘I love you’ am I really feeling it? If not, what is in the way?”. I worked with these words both to directly address something I was finding challenging, as well as just chanting them with no purpose in mind at all.

I found that by simply chanting these words that my inner discordance, my stuff, would come up. Not only would it come up, but it was as if my inner disharmony was being tuned to the frequency of these words and the intention they carry. Over time I found these four simple concepts acted like tuning forks, each carrying a different tone of purity that I could use to tune the disharmonious parts of myself. Best of all, I found that applying this chant to the chaos of my mind brought about stillness and calm.

The only problem with human beings is that they are arrogant, because that’s what thinking is. This is in essence ‘I know’. Wisdom is being in the void. To be thoughtless. Only by being in the void can the Light come through. As long as I have something going on in my mind the Light can’t come through. The Light can only come in when the mind is cleared–in a state of silence. – Dr Hew Len, Shamanic Wisdomkeepers

Forgiveness in bodyForgiveness has the power to bring harmony within and with others.

Why is Ho’oponopono powerful?

Throughout human history, we have been divided by distance, language, cultural and religious beliefs, class and economic hierarchy. Whenever someone comes up with a perspective there seems to always be someone else there with an opposing opinion. To me, the power of Ho’oponopono comes, in large part, from the fact that it’s a really rare thing for the vast majority of humanity to be in agreement about anything.

Across all cultures practically all of us agree that the concepts of thank you, I’m sorry, please forgive me and I love you are all valuable and important. If there is such thing as a collective consciousness, as Jung and many eastern traditions have suggested, then the basis of the power of Ho’oponopono may come from the sheer volume of people throughout human history who have agreed that these concepts are valuable, important and useful to humanity. In this way, Ho’oponopono may be tapping into a level of awareness that extends far beyond its Hawaiian roots into perhaps every culture that has ever existed on Earth.

In common with other shamanic traditions, the Hawaiian tradition teaches that all life is connected.  Ho’oponopono is, therefore, not only a way of healing ourselves, but others and our world as well. – Timothy Freke, Shamanic Wisdomkeepers

Can Ho’oponopono affect More than Our Internal World?

At the core of Dr. Hew Len’s perspective is the idea of taking responsibility for more than your personal self because ‘you are in me and I am in you’. His way of expressing Ho’oponopono contains an awareness that the discordance we find in others and in the world outside ourselves is due to ‘errors’ in thought stored in our personal and collective memories. The belief in these errors existing in some form of collective memory accessible to all allows for a person practicing Ho’oponopono to clean these errors, whether the error originated in their personal thoughts or not.

I don’t see myself as a kahuna, I see myself as a garbage collector.  I’m only here to be responsible and it’s often very hard to do that. – Dr Hew Len, Shamanic Wisdomkeepers

Forgiveness in thoughtsThe power to change the world around us.

The paradox here is that he is advocating development of personal power to change the situation around us through increasing personal responsibility, which involves a willingness to take on responsibility for cleaning discordance that was not created by oneself, i.e doing other people’s inner work for them (which doesn’t seem like the other taking personal responsibility for them self). As usual, the paradox is resolved with the awareness that separation consciousness is not the only reality and an underlying unity also co-exists, after all: ‘you are in me and I am in you’. This is where Ho’oponopono truly steps into being a shamanic practice, where the reality not only within but around the practitioner can apparently be adjusted.

No one wanted the job I did with the criminally insane. They were averaging about one psychologist a month. But I got asked. We had about 25-30 people. Half of them would be in shackles at the ankles or the wrists because they were dangerous. They could either kick you or slam you. Everyone would walk with their back toward the wall so that they wouldn’t get struck. They had no family visits. No one could leave the building. A year and a half later there was none of that. There were people going out on bus rides. Nobody in shackles. The level of medication dropped. What did I do?  I worked on myself. I took 100% responsibility. – Dr Hew Len, Shamanic Wisdomkeepers

While the rational part of me would still like verification that this story really happened, it evoked enough curiosity in me to get me to try the technique and find out for myself if it might be helpful to my life.

Ho’oponopono as a Family Therapy Practice

For people living in Hawaii today, Ho’oponopono is less about it being a personal shamanic practice through chanting a mantra internally or externally, and more about a traditional system of dispute resolution. It’s a practice that still holds the values of making things right and correcting errors, however in this incarnation it is focused on making things right with our relations; coming back into right relationship by correcting errors with living relatives, ancestors and deities.

Ho'oponopono as a family therapy practiceHo’oponopono as a family therapy practice.

Today Ho’oponopono is just like family therapy. This has been really influenced by the Christians. But I’m talking about the real Ho’oponopono from before they came. [Back] then the Hawaiians didn’t need to talk anymore. They could go straight to the Light. This is very ancient. It goes back to the start, because that’s where Hawaiians came from. – Dr Hew Len, Shamanic Wisdomkeepers

The ritual for group reconciliation itself involves an elder in the family convening the process, or if this isn’t possible an elder from the wider community. The ideal situation is for the ritual to be conducted by praying priest (kahuna pule) or healing priest (kahuna lapaʻau) particularly if illness was involved.

The process begins with prayer. A statement of the problem is made, and the transgression discussed. Family members are expected to work problems through and cooperate, not ‘hold fast to the fault.’ One or more periods of silence may be taken for reflection on the entanglement of emotions and injuries. Everyone’s feelings are acknowledged. Then confession, repentance and forgiveness take place. Everyone releases (kala) each other, letting go. They cut off the past (ʻoki), and together they close the event with a ceremonial feast, called pani, which often included eating limu kala or kala seaweed, symbolic of the release. – Nana I Ke Kumu (Look To The Source) by Mary K. Pukui, E.W Haertig, Catharine Lee.

reconciliation in the familCreating space for confession, repentance, and forgiveness to take place.

Testing the True Power of Ho’oponopono

Like many spiritual practices, such as meditation, it’s not the practice you do while you’re in the crisis, it’s the practice you do on a regular basis between the crisis that makes it effective when the storm hits. A couple of years ago I was at a spiritual retreat where the practice I was engaged in triggered what I would now describe as a state of spiritual emergency. I use this term in the context that Stan Grof and other transpersonal psychologists might use it, as an alternative way of describing what others might call psychosis.

I was in a mindset where I felt emotionally and spiritually assaulted and was by far feeling more threatened than I had ever experienced in my life. Upon the realisation that no-one was coming to help me, I knew that it was up to me to deal with the situation. I sat down on the spot and went into meditation. Out of the many chants and tools I have learned over the years, it was Ho’oponopono that came to me as the solution to my situation.

Within moments of implementing the practice, the feeling of all-out assault on my consciousness cleared as easily as the smell of burnt toast when one opens the windows on a day with a fresh breeze. When I was found I was meditating quietly in a state of peace and gentleness and the challenge of a potentially full-blown psychotic episode had dissolved and has not since returned. I share this not to state what will definitely happen to others who choose to use this practice but to simply illustrate what may be possible.

How do you feel about this article? Join the conversation.

Jonathan Davis

Amplifying personal healing and growth for collective evolution.




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103 Responses to The Ancient Hawaiian Practice of Forgiveness

  1. I would like to point to Kaluapakohana’s reply to Azadeh’s comment above and ask the author and readers to help redress some misconceptions. I lived in Hawai’i 10 years and had this conversation with a cultural practitioner who encouraged me to speak up. This prayer/”mantra” has been popularized by Ihaleakala Hew Len and Joe Vitale, it became so famous that internationally the term ho’oponopono is now misleadingly almost identified with it, however, as much as it can be inspired by ho’oponopono, the prayer and ideas in Joe Vitale’s and similar books/courses have very little to nothing to do with actual Hawaiian families practices. Ihaleakala Hew Len studied with a legit kahuna, Morrnah Simeona, but he himself was transparent about not being a kahuna or ho’oponopono practitioner. Please always cite your sources and the connection of your sources with ho’oponpono elders recognized by the community in Hawai’i when referring to ho’oponopono and please refrain to use the word to refer to other practices. This way we can support Hawaiian culture instead of feeding misconceptions that can harm rather than support the survival and Hawaiian cultural restoration that people are putting so much effort into. Thank you <3

  2. Nice article. Personally I also like it most in this order: “I am sorry, please forgive me, thank you, I love you”. It feels most natural to me. I have been practicing it for several years already, so now I am basically repeating these 4 phrases almost automatically and continuously in my mind. They sure have power! And especially the forgiveness aspect is so important.

    • We agree – it can be very powerful! Yes, it’s good to say it however it feels most natural 🙂 That’s wonderful that it’s become such a habit for you.

      Keep spreading your light. Thank you for reading <3
      Team UPLIFT

  3. I was reading this and i realy found what i was looking for your article is really informative and i’ll be grɑteful if ʏou keep writing in the future.

  4. I have worked in hospices where a form of this mantra is used.
    The words used were: forgive me, I forgive you, thank you, I love you, and goodbye.
    These were thought to be the five things that cleared the way for the dying.

    • That is a really beautiful, loving, conscious way to make peace with death Lauren. Thank you so much for sharing 🙂

      Team UPLIFT

  5. Go to Pacifica Seminars website, click on one of the four languages , I chose French. And you should be able to click on translate to English. I just did. Very enlightening

  6. If you’re Muslim, you can simply encourage him to do istighfar or paying on our prophet on a daily basis and he will be fine. It’s that simple.

  7. I need to help my husband without asking him to say it.
    Can I do it for him. I mean can I say it with an intention of healing him?

  8. Dr. Hew Len used at Hawaii State Hospital (between 1984 – 1987) allegedly a Ho’oponopono-process, which was developed by Morrnah Simeona. This Ho’oponopono-process is said to involves 12 or 14 steps (depending on how you count the steps). Therefore would the success due to the 12- or 14-step Ho’oponopono-process.

    There is are exist allegedly positive testimonies from people, who have also used Morrnah’s ho’oponopono-process. This states that Morrnah’s ho’oponopono-process must be enormous powerful.

    This may be of interest to many people, and especially to those who are looking for a powerful way to sustainably / permanently resolve their problems.

    PS: According to my research, there exists an organization called Pacifica Seminars (see Wikipedia – Morrnah Simeona), which was founded by Morrnah Simeona in 1990 in Germany. Take a look at Pacifica Seminars 😉

    • Hi
      I have known Ho opnopono since 10 days ago. But its still a bit unknow for me. I have a question that do we only need to say those 4 words again and again and it works or we need to do smt more for example think what do i do that i have this problem and bla bla.
      Im really appreciate if u reply to me
      Thank u ahead

      • Just repeat those 4 magic words all day long! Even if you say 2 or 2 of them, it still works, the more you say/repeat them, the more wonderful things you will see happening in your life! Look for More stuff on YouTube! Blessings to you and good luck!:)

      • Azadeh,
        Ho’oponopono is a sacred moment to heal and to solve long existing problems between family members. It’s not about just saying the words it’s about prayer to ask for forgiveness, to accept the apology and forgive that person, it’s not just I say those words and it works…it take time sometimes it can take days…this fool that is trying to “teach” Ho’oponopono may have read Mary Puku’i’s book or perhaps was “taught” by some “shaman” but he does not know how it is done…it’s a cultural process that is used in families from small kid times…it is a process that deals with intense feelings and hurt from everyone that is present…only the people involved are present and the only thing discussed is the problem…and most importantly all must want to work towards a resolve to whatever the problem is….and no one leaves the session until it is solved and forgiveness has been accepted, prayer is said, lots of tears and hugs and a blessing is given…in Hawaii different families have different ways of Ho’oponopono but the basics are the basics and that is followed precisely for a favorable outcome.

        • Aloha e Kaluapakohana, mahalo! I was hoping for someone to say this! I lived in Hawai’i 10 years and had this conversation with a cultural practitioner, the prayer/”mantra” popularized by Ihaleakala Hew Len and Joe Vitale became so famous that internationally the term ho’oponopono is now misleadingly almost identified with it without any connection with actual Hawaiian practices. Ihaleakala Hew Len studied with a legit kahuna Morrnah Simeona but he himself was transparent about not being a kahuna or ho’oponopono practitioner. I will copy this comment in the main thread (in case you would like to add something there). Aloha no!

  9. How can there be Zero if we hold on to notions of God or Divinity? Or even Zero?

    Constructions of the mind in between immediate experience masking reality?

    Someone said if on your path to truth you come across a Buddha…kill him!

  10. This is absolutely beautiful!! Thank you so much for writing this!! As I was reading those words, I literally felt & still do feel very light & tingly..


  11. Hi this is a wonderful article and I really want to incorporate this every morning. My son is 12 and was diagnosed with ADHD when he was 3. We’ve been through a lot and I’ve suffered with the guilt of possibly passing this to him because I had ADD when I was a child. Not to mention I constantly worry about his social life and progression as an adult due to his symptoms. I want him to be healed of this and live a prosperous healthy life but I know both him and I need help and some sort of spiritual cleansing. I try to speak with him about meditation and having self control but sometimes I feel he is not focused enough. I pray this gives me some insight and helps me heal mentally and him mentally and physically. Any advice would be greatly appreciative. ❤️

    • Hi K, that sounds really challenging. It sounds like you just want the best for your son. Of course you do. It also sounds like you love him very, very much. And from my perspective, that makes him very lucky. Do you think being the loving, accepting, caring mother that you are to him (and to yourself as well) could be enough? Because I personally think that’s the best (and actually most important!) thing any of us can do for ourselves and each other.

      Much love to you,
      Team UPLIFT

    • Hello K Johnson,
      What I get reading ur mesg is very touching & very desperate.
      Your son is very aware of energy. He can sense the energy that how you judge yourself,don’t love yourself & are guilty about his condition.
      What if u can do this 4 phrase ho’oponopono exercise with your ownself first. Simultaneously u can do with ur son too…but 1st priority is you.
      The moment you start loving yourself & accepting yourself, guess what?
      Ur son will do the same. He will be able to love & accept his own self.
      That is the greatest gift you can give him.
      You can’t fake it near him because we all are energy beings & he can sense your energy.
      Hope this helps..or u can mesg me for more insight.

    • K…while I understand your predicament Ho’oponopono is more for dealing with problems between family members where one needs forgiveness…your son is dealing more with a health/mind situation that has nothing to do with forgiveness…Ho’oponopono is not a “fix it” for all things it is specifically for certain areas that we as humans need assistance with. It sounds like you are internalizing his problem and perhaps putting guilt on yourself? From what I understand ADHD can be made manageable by changing the food he eats, ex: no sugar, no white flour, etc. my grandson had that and we changed his food and gave him more natural fruits & veggies…it helped immensely…we made sure he got no sugar of any kind. Trying to understand about ADHD and reading up on diet, etc. really helps. We didn’t want any drugs that could harm him long term so we chose to not go with the usual types of treatment…The focus clearly needs to be on your son and how you can help him…at this time feeling guilty about why he has this is not productive to you or to him…also in our case my grandson out grew it…so perhaps checking with his DR. might help you more….but Ho’oponopono is not the answer for you….

  12. I am continuously banging my head against the wall because about 10 years ago my sister, the eldest in my family stopped all contact with me. To this day, I do not know why.
    There was slight differences after my parents passed, but NOTHING to toss her baby brother to the curb forever. My sister and I were very close. She is the eldest and I’m the youngest of 4.
    She was married before I was 5 years old and has always lived out of town, but we’ve stayed connected, always, up until about 2004, when my father died.
    I’ve heard through the grapevine that she could actually be my mother, not my sister … some of my family (cousins) say, it could be, but some say absolutely not.
    What do you think I should do. I miss her very very much.


    • Marc, that sounds terribly painful and confusing… I’m sorry this has been your experience. Have you tried writing to her, explaining how you feel and asking how she feels about it? Perhaps if she knows that you miss her and want to understand what was/is going on for her to make her ‘abandon’ you, she might respond. In my experience, I find people really just want to be truly heard and understood.

      I really hope you will reunite with your sister again one day Marc.

      Much love,
      Team UPLIFT

  13. After applying Ho’oponopono in my life, I realized that I am more in the “now” and worrying less about the future. The biggest improvement after applying Ho’oponopono is that my relationship with everyone is getting a lot better. Especially with my sister and my manager, which I struggle to have good relationship with before. I was inspired a few days ago after doing Ho’oponopono while meditating and I came upon this idea of making a T-shirt design about Ho’oponopono. The next day I immediately took action and went on creating the T-shirt, while keep on repeating “I love you and thank you” to myself. Finally, within a day I created this Ho’oponopono T-shirt. The purpose of this shirt is to remind everyone to continue to do Ho’oponopono in a daily basis. Ho’oponopono changed my life and it will change yours too. It’s that easy. Take 100 % responsible and know that the outer reflects your inner being so start cleaning everyday by repeating the four phrases: “ I’m sorry, please forgive me, thank you, and I love you”
    Check out my self designed Ho’oponopono T-shirt in the link here: https://teespring.com/ho-oponopono-t-shirt?pid=2&cid=2397

    Thank You and I Love You.

  14. Is it more powerful to speak in English the words” I’m sorry please forgive me thank u I love u? Or should I repeat Ho’noonopono? Thank you.

  15. What ive taken away from reading this is simply: if nothing else,when u focus the mind on these thoughts,you are bound to dissipate negative beliefs/ emotions you have about a person/ situation. This alone is powerful in helping you soothe yourself as well as respond to your problem more constructively. So elegant. And yet so difficult for people to apply consistently.

  16. Skift til dansk
    I have questions that I ask to help with. When practicing hoopononpono, you should then look at what you want dissolved and then say prayer.
    example. I am a friend of a friend or I fear money. I must first look at the money and explain why I feared them and then say prayer

  17. This was amazing to read since I was drawn to it after an incident in which I thought I had harmed an animal in my care by not understanding what to do in that situation and making a decision that lead me to release them before they might have been fully healed from a trauma. I worried they had succumbed to the elements or predators or to infection. I felt terrible guilt when someone pointed out that it was the wrong thing to do. The only thing I could think of was a Youtube video I had seen with Dr. Joe Vitale and recalling those 4 phrases. I kept saying them and in a couple of days (after almost 2 months) all the animals I had taken in for TNR came to have food from me that I had been preparing and laying down twice a day morning and night in spite of their absence. Although they were nervous, it said to me that I had been forgiven. I was grateful. And even though reading through the comments, I now find that my recollection or the re-telling of the story may not have been accurately represented, I can say it was what lead me to explore this further, read everyone’s comments and to learn more, just because I was able to remember and say those 4 phrases, experience some relief and to find the situation had changed. So I believe there is something there to it, even if done imperfectly. Thank you for the article and thank you to those who provided more guidance and information to lead me to my next step along my life path. With gratitude.

  18. Hi there thank you for this wonderful article, I have read the book zero limits and apply Ho’oponopono to my everyday life. I use this method to clear my limiting beliefs around money and anxiety, it works great. I have few articles stating that Dr Hew Len simplified Mornahs teachings, from what I’ve been reading it seems to have disgruntled a few people.
    I personally think learning a technique and re teaching it in a different variation is fine, as long as it’s still providing help and WORKS.

    I’ve been using Dr Hew Lens Method for a few months now and it has definitely helped me live a more relaxed and calm life. I’m truly grateful for him and Joe vitale for sharing their methods to the world and helping others.

    I actually came across a certification course that allows you to be a Ho’oponopono practitioner, this course is online which is great too. Was wondering if anyone has done it before ? I found it on a blog post here: https://moderndaymanifestations.com/hooponopono-and-manifestation/

    Was wondering what people thought about it?

    Dr. Gharda-Ward was further inspired to write a book review about Zero Limits.
    THIS BOOK IS TOTALLY FALSE, March 25, 2014 By G. Gharda Ward MD:
    I am a Board-Certified Psychiatrist. In 1987 I worked at Hawaii State Hospital. ON THEIR FORENSIC UNIT, where Joe Vitale says these “miracles” took place. I can assure you this is completely phony and false. IT NEVER HAPPENED. There were no psychotic murderers and rapists that were “cured” by this Ho’oponopono. It is false and misleading. Many of the things in the book are completely untrue. There were no car washes (can you imagine letting murderers and rapists off the unit to go outside and wash cars?), patients did not walk around in shackles nor were they held for long periods in seclusion. This is a STATE HOSPITAL!! Can you imagine what would happen if the Honolulu Advertiser (the local paper) had gotten wind of these patients being allowed outside? What if one of them escaped?? The Doctor, the hospital administrator, heck, the Governor of the state would be in big trouble. Think about it!! The events described in the book simply did not happen.

  20. This is NO Ho’oponopono! Mantra does not exist in the Hawaiian tradition. These 4 sentences are not at all in the ancient spiritual tradition. And above all these sentences are not Ho’oponopono. These 4 sentences are an invention of Ihaleakala Hew Len around 1996. Morrnah Simeona had never transmitted anything like this. Ho’oponopono is based on a lie: Hew Len had not healed any mentally ill in that famous psychiatric hospital. The psychiatrists in the structure testify this in 1987. When a story is based on a lie, everything becomes a lie, as these 4 sentences demonstrate. If you repeat “coca cola” with conviction, it will do you good anyway.

  21. This must be hard for a lot of people to believe but a few years ago when I was living by myself, all of a sudden I felt a not-so-friendly presence at home. It wouldn’t let me sleep peacefully at night with loud and strange noises and I used to dread coming home after work. This continued for around 3 months. Then one day, I just thought whatever this presence was, it can definitely read my thoughts, so I sent a ho’opponoppono prayer to this being just a few times. Immediately, it left my house, that very day all those strange noises stopped completely.

  22. How beautiful it is to make space for forgiveness…to love and to say sorry. I’m grateful to Kumu Kimo Keaulana who shared this valuable article with his Facebook ohana today.

  23. Thank you so much for sharing, it feels as a releaf to me as I start repeating it in my mind even without knowing how to practice meditation (yet)!

  24. Hi dear,
    I need your assistance at one point. ( I’m sure there would be a lot of questions in the mean time but I’m listening videos and find reasonable answers )

    So can you please help me in cleaning objects, places, appliances,cars ?? How can I do, I mean is it something staring or thinking or being/ feeling in that room and simply saying Thank you..thank you.. Do you understand what I mean ? How can I clean my car or computer..etc.

    I’ll be thankful if you can enlighten?

    Thank you, thank you

  25. I have been applying Ho’oponopono to my life for many years. One of the things I learned early on is that forgiveness is not just forgiving whomever I felt slighted me, but to forgive myself for allowing myself to be slighted. To apologize to myself for giving away my spirit and to love unconditionally anyway, being thankful that my healing begins and ends with my initiative for I may only know GodUs by cleaning and clearing all the thoughts that I believed in that no longer serve me and simply replacing those thoughts 24/7 with;
    I love you I call this replacement therapy
    Thank you
    Forgive me
    I’m sorry
    Truly becoming a
    “Spiritual garbageman”
    We heal the world by healing ourselves first for
    “Peace on Earth” begins with making peace with ourselves first.

  26. This was a good article, but the one thing I disagree with, is that practicing Ho’oponopono is NEVER about the other person, nor is it about cleaning the collective unconscious. We take 100% responsibility for anything that shows up in OUR experience, because if we’re 100% clean and clear, we experience Bliss and Enlightenment, and the side effect of that, is those around us become clear as well—as in Dr. Len’s experience with the mental hospital. We clear experiences with our higher self, and she knows when/where/with whom errors in thought occur, and our conscious mind doesn’t need to know. It’s taken care of. https://blissthroughaloha.com

    • Ho’oponopono is an effective inner work because what gets erased from us. gets erased from others and especially from our family, relatives and ancestors. Whatever gets erased from me, it gets erased from everybody else. Thank you. I love you. ❤

  27. My painting “30 Days of Ho’oponopono” is currently on exhibit at the Hudson Valley Center for Contemporary Art in Peekskill, NY. Ho’oponopono is AMAZING and life changing. 🙂

  28. Would you please go into a little more detail about how to do this when the person with whom you experience discord is unavailable? Thank you!

    • Aloha Kimbaila,

      How does the Ho’oponopono cleaning work:

      The cleaning is initiated by the intellect. It is the mental part in you and the one that has free choice. God gave you the gift of the intellect (apple tree) to choose, it was not to fill it up with knowledge and to get University degrees. To choose what? Follow God or your memories and programs. Do it God’s way or your way. And please know you are choosing 24/7 all the time. Well, your programs are the ones choosing for you all the time, unless your intellect chooses differently (the cleaning).

      What does it mean to choose the cleaning? Well, your intellect becomes a little bit more humble and says:

      I am sorry, please forgive me for whatever is in me that is creating this. The intellect knows it is not GUILTY, just RESPONSIBLE. Responsible for what? Responsible for the programs playing in you and you don’t even need to know, or understand. There is a part of you that knows better and is waiting for you to give permission!

      In order to clean, do I need to repeat all that? To clean, do I need to say the 4 words that I learned from Joe Vitale? When I clean, do I need to think and concentrate on what I am cleaning with? NO, NO and NO.

      Just repeating thank you or I love you in your mind does it (the I am sorry, please forgive me for whatever is in me that is creating this is built in!) Thank you and I love you are the pass codes! Plus, you never know what you are cleaning on, nor you are the one deciding what it gets cleaned. You are just giving permission!!!

      So, how does the cleaning work? When the intellect chooses to take 100% responsibility and to let go, it is like an order that goes to the subconscious mind (the inner child in you). The inner child in you is the one that holds all the memories and is the one that makes the connection to your superconscious mind (the part in you that is perfect) and it is the superconscious the one that makes the petition to the Creator.

      Immediately after, Mana or divine energy comes down and cleanses you spiritualy, mentally, emotionally and finally physically. The response is automatic.

      Important to know: All your problems are a memory playing in the subconscious mind. They are not at the physical level. The problem is the memory or the thought that created your problem at the physical!

      Every time you say “thank you” or “I love you” you are letting go, giving permission to this part of you that knows better. This part knows even why that problem showed up, and what is the perfect solution for it too!

      And, it is the law of the Universe. Every time you knock, the door opens.

      The cleaning is like the game of the Universe and the rules are: 1 ) You trust that every time you say thank you, something happens even if you cannot feel it or see it. 2) No expectations. You do not know where it is going to come from. You do not know what is right and perfect for you. Sorry! Just trust and be patient. Become an observer of your life. You are not your problems. You are above your problems.

      Here you have a useful video of Mabel Katz.


      Thank you. I love you.

  29. Aloha, It is good to see forgiveness and self-responsibility being embraced from a healing perspective on such a wide scale. Stan as well as his mentor for many many years, the late Morrnah Simeona, were some of the first teachers after the lifting of many kapu during the “Hawaiian Renaissance” (1976). It is also important to know that there are many “authentic Hawaiian” schools of thought on this topic. There were many teachers and wisdom keepers, most of whom have passed, and these elders all had their own ways of practicing and sharing ho’oponopono. Some of the wording in this article is misleading. But ultimately, with the right intention, all lead to re-connecting with your divine essence. It certainly takes mindful practice and dedication. The actual word for forgiveness is ‘kala’. The idea of ‘repentance’ reveals the influence of the European colonization and missionaries (1700s-1800s). The Hawaiian spirituality before that is known to have been deeper. For example, the ancient Hawaiians knew they were born “a perfect bowl of light” and not born in sin. They knew that they needed to correct their wrongs and the value of the ‘ohana (extended family) staying in harmony, but they viewed ho’opono as more of a ‘making things pono’ because that is the way of the Aloha Spirit – aligned, interconnected, truthful, balanced, honest etc. “Pono ke ala” is the way to walk with our highest guides, ancestors and angels, or the pono ‘path’. This is not a ‘shamanistic tradition’ here in Hawaii; it is a simple and genuine way of life for many in a place where all things, places and people are known to be sacred in essence. This knowledge is embedded in Hawaiian culture and radiates from the ‘aina (land). Malama pono and Mahalo, Nancy Kahalewai, Author and Lomi Practitioner.

    • thanks so much for your comments Nancy. I did my best to write the article honestly from the perspective of someone who is not from that originating culture, and has only learned about this practice from the outside. It wasn’t my intention to mislead and i did my best to remain respectful and reference Indigenous Hawaiians and speak from my own personal experience.

      I’m very glad to hear that there is a strong cultural depth far beyond my surface level intro, still alive in Hawaii. I hope you can feel that my intention was to approach this subject in a way that was above the usual white person cultural appropriation.

      If there is anything you can recommend I correct I would be very open to considering changes.

      thanks again, Jonathan.

  30. Tenzin Palmo (a high ranking female Tibetan Buddhist lama and scholar) has made the observation that a “one-size-fits-all” approach to achieving “balance” ignores fundamental differences in how females and males are socialized in different cultures. This article says, “humans are arrogant” but, really there’s a lot of research to indicate that in American society males in particular are arrogant because of their socialization. Females, on the other hand, tend to take on more blame, while males tend to blame others when things go wrong. So, I am cautioning you not to advise females to chant “I’m sorry, forgive me, thank you, I love you” because that’s what females are already socialized to think/feel and is what contributes to their remaining in abusive relationships, for example. As Tenzin Palmo points out, balance is in the MIDDLE, but men are socialized to be on one end of the spectrum and women on the other end, so the message for each needs to be different. A good mantra for women might be “I matter, see me, appreciate me, love me,” in order to help women develop being assertive, setting boundaries and knowing their worth. Please note that these differences are not biological, but are due to our gendered socialization and have been well documented.

      • great divine sister it is not male or female it is the energy correction irrespective of the gender. Females are always great powers on this earth whatever the roll of life they are assigned.

    • The words “I am sorry and please forgive me” (the others also) are first of all directed to me, for everything I’ve done to me although I disapproved it in the bottom of my heart, and from here, are also directed to the other people known and unknown, that I mistreat them with my thoughts and facts.

    • The modern day teacher who taught Dr. Len was Mornah Simeona a woman, who would simply reply to your viewpoint male or female with;
      I love you
      Thank you
      Forgive me
      I’m sorry
      When it comes to the main healing aspect of Ho’oponopono, what we are healing is our thoughts which are neither male nor female.
      That is unless you have identified the thought as female or male because of the gender of the person from whom the thought came from. That having been said the whole point of Ho’oponopono would have been missed. Whether male or female Ho’oponopono works thru it’s simplicity. It’s not about who is thinking it’s about taking full responsibility for each thought, being accountable for that thought being my own and ownership of that thought as mine, male or female, and no longer pointing my finger at something outside of myself as cause. The point is to reach “no point” zero thought and by doing so touching inspiration. GodUs. Simply saying

      • The Mantra “i love you, please forgive you, i’m sorry, thank you.” is not ho’oponopono and is not hawaiian. Dr. Hew Len never healed with a mantra “i love you, please forgive you, i’m sorry, thank you.” in Hawaii State Hospital. This Mantra was developed by Dr. Hew Len after Morrnah Simeonas death and its not ho’oponopono and not hawaiian. Likewise the story about “100% responsibility”, zero state, etc.

        Morrnah Simeona (1913 – 1992) was a native hawaiian kahuna. She updated the traditional Ho’oponopono to today’s times and realities and made it available to all interested around the world. Morrnah’s Ho’oponopono is a 14-step Ho’oponopono-process ho’oponopono (or 12 steps – it depends on how you count the steps. According to Michael Micklei, 14 steps if you count step 6a / b, 6c and 6d as 3 steps by older Versions of Morrnah’s Ho’oponopono process).

        Morrnah founded Pacifica Seminars Inc. in the 1970s and the “Foundation of I” 1980 to teach and spread her 14-step ho’oponopono around the world. In 1990, Morrnah and Yvette Mauri founded “Pacifica Seminars” in Germany (www.pacificaseminars.de). Pacifica Seminars in Germany is the only organization in Europe, where you can learn Morrnah’s original Ho’oponopono-process today, that was developed by Morrnah. The original 14-step ho’oponopono-process, this was developed by Morrnah, is the final version, that she compleded in 1991. Pacifica Seminars in Germany is headed today by Michael Micklei and his wife Yvette Mauri.

        Michael Micklei knows Dr. Hew Len already at the time, while Dr. Hew Len worked in the Hawaii state Hospital in the 1980s. He gave with Dr. Hew Len togehter ho’oponopono seminars (at that time Morrnah was still alive). In the seminars were told only about the 14-step ho’oponopono process of Morrnah Simeona. Never about a mantra or 100%responsibility or about a zero state.

        Michael Micklei wrote in a comment to an another person:


        “Dr. Len never healed in the mentioned hospital by only saying over and over “I love you” and “Thank you” to the “I”, Morrnahs word for the Source, for Divinity. Instead he used Morrnahs 12 (or 14) step process only, twice or three times a day. Every day he walked through the hospital he looked carefully to the patients, the doctors, his feelings. He taped this. And asked Divinity to heal his karmic bondages with these persons and matters. A hard job for three years. Divinity accepted the plea and healed. 2 persons were not healed, as there were no karmic bondages with Dr. Len.

        Morrnah gave him this kind of order to do so (and at that time he worked really for the good to help Morrnah for her special spiritual job) and in classes, we both attended between Nov. 86 and later, Dr. Len was always telling in detail at the beginning that he was doing exactly this, nothing else. NO mantra was mentioned, never. At that time, Dr. Len was a student of Morrnah like me, so why and how could he use a quite different way in the hospital – and at the weekend in classes he said the opposite? Morrnah was also complex clairvoyant, she could see and hear everything.

        All so called tools of Dr. Len (except 2 or 3) were developped by Dr. Len after 1992, which are only temporarily harmonizing or calming down – NOT cleansing, NOT being any ho’oponopono, as they are not mutual. They are (powerful) magic tools. They are not bad in itsself, but they block people to learn authentic ho’oponoponos – traditional ones or the one of Morrnah. People like those easy magic ways, they really think to heal karmic stuff of hundreds and more reincarnations by 11 words.

        It is clearly the good part of Joe Vitale’s job to spread the name of ho’oponopono from the time of “Zero limits” across the world – but the illusion is inclusive: people know the name, but did not hear about the real content of ho’oponopono or even forget it. Pls keep in mind Dr. Len’s words (received by his divinity) in Zero Limits: “I’ve been told to kill the Divine to be home.” To kill the Divine? Well, starting to take him out from the cleansing. This does not seem a path up to the mountain.

        • You say Morrnah made this available to all the world, but that is not the case as many have mentioned, If you research wanting how to do ho’oponopono, all you ever come up with is Dr Len’s work about the mantra. I have yet after doing much research ever found one single thing showing the 14 steps. It’s just not out there, there is mention of the place in Germany but their website is in german, not English so I still haven’t a clue how or what the the 14 steps are. If it’s available to the whole world, then where is it? Thanks

          • Go to Pacifica Seminars website, click on one of the four languages , I chose French. And you should be able to click on translate to English. I just did. Very enlightening

          • Hi Karen,
            I understand you. I asked myself the same question.
            My advice to you:
            Call Michael Micklei from Pacifica Seminars. He speaks perfect English. Believe me, it’s worth it!!
            There are ways to learn Morrnah’s original process.
            Seminars are held by Pacifica Seminars in English. Since you don’t speak German, I insert the link from Pacifica Seminars here. Here you can get in contact with Pacifica Seminars:

    • Although you are absolutely right IMHO about gender socialization, I agree with the other repliers that this is not the point. The phrases of Ho’oponopono can be directed to your inner child, for example, in order to heal from the abuses of a narcissist – which you allowed and became addicted to because you did not love and respect yourself enough. And that is what you have to accept responsibility and ask forgiveness for. And you need to express appreciation for the wonderful being that your inner child is/was (and who you are) and be the loving adult that your inner child did not have.

      The words can also be directed to your parents, whom you may have punished for their mistakes and limitations despite all the good things they gave you, nevertheless.

    • I agree!!!! I changed it to “I forgive you.” Instead of “I’m sorry” and it was an amazingly cathartic experience.

    • Amy Luna, thank you so much for pointing this out. It was suggested to me that I might benefit from this practice, when I found myself crashing recently after caregiving for my mother (Alzheimer’s) for four years and through the grief of losing her. But what you’re saying makes so much sense, and when I read your suggested words – I matter, see me, appreciate me, love me – my heart and body sighed with recognition. Like you, I believe that most of humanity’s imbalance is a result of strong and aggressive male energy, fed by millennia of social conditioning and power plays. Gratitude.

    • Thank you Amy. I so appreciate your remarks, because while I understand the need for and benefit of correcting our own thought errors, I was very uncomfortable with the forgiveness / love mantra as stated. I felt more blocked. Your comments helped me understand that reaction. My personal history definitely requires balancing the messages and the internal resetting of where and how the fulcrum of responses / responsibility lies on this continuum of personal power.

    • For a Tibetan Lama, it seems like you are very rooted in the physical world and the illusion of gender. A blanket statement like “males are…” or “females are…” seems to be the very thing that this technique is trying to overcome. Why don’t you give it a try and not over intellectualize it and see how it goes. The very core of this is to take 100% responsibility for all that you see around you. Your post seems to indicate you are still blaming others.

    • Finally someone that makes sense!!!!!!!! Thank you for attributing the problem to social factors and that ONE size does not fit all!! Your input has made me realize something so important about myself. Thank you thank you thank you! I hope I can exchange some more ideas with you.

    • Of course women matter we all matter. I believe keeping it simple is the answer. I’m sorry please forgive me thank you I love you is so simplistic and so easy. If all humanity would practice this every day it would be a different world. And it covers everything

  31. I’m glad to join this conversation. It’s a way to connect people and share experiences based on the method that is presented here. All of us have issues with our loved ones and all those we encounter everyday. We always finding ways and means of improving our lives and our relationships. I’m also glad that this method is based on divine principles and belief in a Supreme Being and Creator.

  32. I’m a therapist and I have built Ho’oponopono into my work. Although simple it is an incredibly powerful tool. Sometimes people are incredibly resistant to saying it the first time (I get them to repeat it after me 3 times). But once they have said it you can immediately see the changes. It really is miraculous.

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