How a Breakdown Inspired a Breakthrough

By Jez Alborough on Thursday July 11th, 2019

A Breakdown on Life’s Highway

Several years ago, I was driving with my wife to the southwest of England for a holiday. After about thirty miles on the highway we pulled into a service station for petrol; on the way back to the car my knees buckled beneath me and… the best way I can put it is my whole personality–the thing that enabled me to function in the world, the part that we all take for granted–just stopped working. As you can imagine, this sudden loss of identity was accompanied by tremendous anxiety. Naturally, this made people around me uncomfortable. Families were becoming upset; people were staring at this grown man, collapsed on the ground, sobbing.

This is how the breakdown finally struck, but four months earlier there had been warning signs foreshadowing its arrival. I had been booked to give a talk to teachers and librarians to promote my children’s books. My career was in a good place. I’d sold millions of books and had even won a BAFTA for an animation based on one of my characters. I was used to playing the role of best-selling author and giving these presentations to large audiences. However, just before I began, I started to feel strange; my hands became cold and my heart started racing. It was as if something in me didn’t want to be where I was, giving that talk, because I didn’t have the ability to fulfill that role. My mind said, ‘Come on–just get on with it, you’ve done this hundreds of times before.’ Somehow, I managed to pull myself together enough to give the talk, but I was left severely shaken.

I had seen the holiday as a chance to get some much-needed relaxation which hopefully would put right whatever was wrong with me. Now, at the service station, that feeling of inner-collapse had returned but this time there was no coming back from it. Willpower was useless–I couldn’t pull myself together.

BreakdownWillpower was useless–I couldn’t pull myself together.

Paramedics were called. They didn’t know what to do with me except take me to the hospital to be checked out. The doctor there was the same: I think because I didn’t have any serious physical problems he thought I was wasting his time with some kind of panic attack. He gave me a tranquiliser which just about allowed me, with my wife’s help, to get home on the train. We arrived in a state of shock: we were supposed to be on holiday. What had just happened? What was going to happen now?

Identity, Reality and My Creative Illness

My life was put on pause. Without that centre–that part of me through which I interacted in the world–functioning as normal, it was almost impossible for me to operate. In the safety of my home I could still function, but to a much lesser degree. I had no appetite and was losing a lot of weight; my heart was palpitating and making sleep difficult. I felt this terrible fear for no apparent reason. Also, I became very sensitive to stimuli–I couldn’t even watch TV because it overloaded my senses. Silence was the only thing I could deal with; the world of man, of thought and busyness was beyond my capacity. I used to see people through my window, waiting at the bus stop, going to work and think: ‘I used to be able to do that.’ It was as if I’d forgotten how to be me. At least, the me I’d been living for forty-odd years.

I was referred to a psychologist. I asked her: ‘Am I going mad?’ She told me I wasn’t. ‘What happens now?’ I asked, ‘Can you help me?’ She said that she couldn’t make the breakdown go away; the only thing I could do was wait for it to pass. So that’s what I did. My life changed dramatically from being active in the world to becoming a virtual recluse waiting for ‘normal life’ to resume. It never did, but in the tortured years that followed, my house became a chrysalis in which something new was born.

All the Lights Went Out, Except One

A turning point came when I discovered a passage in a book about Carl Jung in which he talks about going through his own breakdown; he called it a ‘creative illness.’ The idea that the illness I was in the grip of could be creative opened something in me. I started to have a different relationship to this thing that had brought my life to its knees; I began to have a deep respect for it. I saw it as a powerful, awe-inspiring teacher that could teach me things which no other experience could because no other experience was so radical.

My teacherI began to have a deep respect for it. I saw it as a great teacher.

Obviously, in order to learn, one must be conscious and willing to receive the lessons; and this is the attitude I brought to the breakdown. We’re programmed to pull away from pain, and that actually has the effect of adding more tension and making things worse. Because my personality was no longer in control, it wasn’t able to repress painful emotions from my past which had previously been buried in the subconscious. These terrible, dark, lost feelings were my lessons. The psychological pain kept me focussed sharply in each moment, just as when you cut your finger, it draws your attention to it. However bad the intensity of the pain, I never went unconscious; I was always there, watching this breakdown unfold. Like a detective, I followed the clues, I investigated every memory and emotion and made meticulous notes on my discoveries. I saw my personality, its games and strategies–its whole story was revealed to me.

In the Arms of Infinity

One evening, the psychological suffering I’d been stricken with for eight months intensified. I went to bed drained. I was so sick of being tortured and cut down by this breakdown, I think in my desperation and exhaustion I somehow let go and entered it even more fully. This triggered some sort of primal-scream release, and then, in the middle of all that terrible, writhing emotion… it stopped. The personality and all its suffering were simply unhooked. All that was left was stillness.

When I came downstairs the next morning my wife asked: ‘What happened last night? The whole house feels like it’s full of light.’ I told her: ‘I don’t know, I went to bed in torment and somehow found myself in the arms of infinity’. I wrote a poem to try and capture what I’d experienced.

In the Arms of Infinity

Awakening strikes

Like a flash of lightning illuminating a dark night.

The story of ‘you,’

With its history of beliefs and emotions,

And its future of desire and hope –

Dissolves in the arms of infinity.

Outside of the mind and its perception of time,

Free from the stranglehold of contraction,

It’s found that there’s no separation from love.

Each touch, each smell and sound,

Each breath, thought and feeling

Is known as love happening within, through and around

What has been lived as ‘you.’

In the timeless experience of love

The chasing after desires

And the distraction from suffering

Suddenly become redundant.

Now there’s nothing to fight for,

Nothing to escape,

Nowhere to go.

Meaning is now found in the simple joy

Of being planted in the centre of the mystery of life.

To experience this mystery,

Through the form of this apparent ‘you,’

Is all that Oneness wants to do.

Love happening within, through and around…Love happening within, through and around.

That pronounced awakening didn’t last, but it taught me the vital lesson: I am not the personality. I knew this because I had spent the whole night beyond its reaches. There’s a quote from Albert Camus that reflects what happened to me:

In the depth of winter, I finally learned that there was in me an invincible summer.

An Invincible Summer

It took many more years of willingness and self-inquiry to permanently find that ‘invincible summer.’ The breakdown was the doorway that eventually led to it. The breakdown taught me to question a very basic assumption. We think we are our personalities; this is how our society and families programme us to be. We’re so used to living with this identification that we can’t see how it is actually the cause of our suffering. We come into this life in a natural state, we are taught to leave behind that unbounded state of being and to reside in this finite idea of who we are. How that happens, and what it means to live a life beyond personality has been a subject I’ve been sharing in books and videos ever since I woke up in that ‘invincible summer.’

I know what happened to me was extreme, and everyone has their own ‘depth of winter’–whether it be in the form of depression, anxiety, lack of self-love, etc. What I learned after my own ‘depth of winter’ is that because I was truly willing to inquire into it, the breakdown lead to a transformational breakthrough. That most difficult of my life experiences guided me towards my very own life-changing ‘invincible summer.’


We are moved by stories of courage and the willingness to burn in the flames of egoic illusion and to come through the grasp of conditioned-self into the loving arms of the true-self. Please let us know in the comments below how this story resonated and inspired you.

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43 Responses to How a Breakdown Inspired a Breakthrough

  1. Thank you so so much for this. I am going through something seemingly similar, and this article (along with a few other pieces of content) may have just saved my life. To have faith that this is a lesson and something that I can one day get out of. And that I’m not going crazy or losing my mind. Well I guess I sort of am, but it’s okay and it will end okay. I can get through this…I love you all. Thank you so much for sharing information like this. I cannot tell you what it means to me.

    • Mark,
      We’re so happy you’ve found this article helpful – reading comments like your own keep us going! I sincerely hope you keep seeking and finding content / resources that nourish your mind, body and soul and help you to feel that you are absolutely needed here on this planet, right now. We love you too Mark 💗 Thank you so much for being here and for commenting.

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  2. The awareness of our essensce separate from our personality is an experience that few are lucky enough to have. I, too, had a breakdown followed by an eventual realization that the person I think I am is but a fraction of a Whole – one character of a performance in which “I ” play all the parts. I believe that only when the Ego is made vulnerable, “cracked open”, are we able to see the truth of our existence.

  3. Thanking Jez for his genuine story of coming through his personal crisis, which I greatly can relate to. The “dark night of the Soul” happens in all manner of circumstances, mine took several years to work through, Gradually I too realized that all had to occur, forcing me to investigate more thoroughly who the”I” was that I had,up to then, believed myself to be.
    And I have come to know the “invincible summer”, to appreciate Being, experiencing, sensing this marvelous and seemingly real World. I am ever animated and moved by Grace, there is no boredom, much less anxiousness, mostly gratitude, contentment, and an inner fullness, living in Presence.”In your absence, all is Presence.” Jean Klein

  4. Wow. Thanks for sharing! Great to receive encouragement to continue on with a spirit of enquiry. I see in everyday life how those of us who are willing to brave that wintery darkness and emerge forever changed offer others the permission to live a life beyond who they think they are.

  5. Hi,

    Thank you so much for sharing this article. I have a couple of months in a very uncomfortable place what I called -dark place-. I do not understand what is going on, but I do know, this is not me. I was really amazed after reading the article because somehow I realized that I am not alone, and this will pass. Thank you!


    • I’m so glad this helped you feel at peace with your situation Maria. You most certainly are not alone. Love and blessings to you.

      Team UPLIFT

  6. Couldn’t be explained better.
    Grateful for sharing this experience which I think only intellectuals can digest. Moreover, I would like to reiterate that more suffering takes place when you are living in a primitive society that is regarded as TCN (Third countries nations) where you experience tough situations such as random disconnection of utilities, political instability,low income and leave it up to your imagination.
    Special gratitude to whoever mentioned the triangular assumption of the inner forces, Body, mind and spirit although the author mentioned another watchful (Thing) which could only be felt by gifted believers.

  7. I rarely leave comments but this article is so true, precise and helpful. The breakdowns can truly feel like you are going mad, questioning your own sanity is an extremely scary thing. Sitting with it and allowing it to heal you is some of the most challenging work we can do, constantly being pulled to DO more and BE more by society and those around us. And yet the Spirit tells us to rest, and rest, and rest some more. Allowing the personality to fall away takes time, patience and compassion. And as we go through it, it is so helpful to hear accounts such as yours that there is so much light THROUGH the darkness. Namaste

  8. This reminds me of the Byron Katie experience. Thank you for the story of discovering your true self. A lojong sayin” adversity brings enlightenment

  9. This is such an expressive and articulate account of a spiritual awakening!!! I personally resonated with the crying part. During my awakening I became so sensitive I cried at the drop of a hat. Now, I look back and know in my heart and soul that I was cracking open and healing all the wrongs my personality inflicted against my beautiful soul of light!
    I love this magazine. This article was especially moving.
    Thank you!!

    • I’d just like to say thank you to everyone for your comments. The main point of my article is to give the message that, however bad a place you may be in – with willingness and grace – you can find a way back home. There were times during my ordeal when I didn’t know that, and I had no one around me to tell me otherwise. So it means a lot to me to share this message with anyone who finds them selves in a similar situation. There’s no quick fix – but if you are ready to learn, the lessons you receive will outweigh even the worst suffering. Sending my best to you all. Jez

  10. Beautiful story. I worked in mental health for 25 years and perceived much of the suffering caused by the negative labelling of someone struggling to accept what is while struggling to change themselves.

  11. Excellent article, and an important resource for those in the throes of this breakdown experience. Many of us are dealing with it in this lifetime as we leave behind the constraints of false personality and move into embodiment of the “invincible summer” always available to us within.

  12. This is exactly the story I needed to read at this moment. Thank you for embracing the difficult journey so that you could put it into words that resonate so deeply. In trying to process my own breakdown, I’ve been seeing it through a trauma framework. Having done all I know to do around healing trauma, the process just isn’t complete. My body and inner-self is still highly resistant to moving back out into the world. It’s this piece that’s missing. Trauma was the impetus. Letting go of the former self to become new is the purpose of the journey as a whole. Your piece clarified this for me in a way that I’m ready to and needed to hear right now. My deepest thanks.

  13. I love Jez’s two books… Highly recommend. The personality gets seen through. Amazing books. Amazing guy.


  14. Thanks for sharing. Personal stories of courage + break through always inspire me

    I’ve been out of work over 2 years with work related burn out & it’s a long challenging road to recovery. I’m not there yet.

    It’s been one of the most difficult times in my life so far . The loneliness is the hardest part , almost everybody I know is too busy living their own busy lives to show any concern or interest in mine .
    Or maybe they actually just don’t care.

    Existing on social welfare limits my ability to get out much or socialise
    ( not that I want to ). I realized it’s only those new friends I’ve met who already journeyed through similar experiences , that have made an effort to spend some time with me + offer support. It’s helped .

    Yes the loneliness for me is the hardest part. I don’t know if or when I’ll get back to work . Nothing feels solid anymore .

    I know there’s a message + lesson in this experience – heal my life….the old one doesn’t work for me any longer

  15. Thank you .
    For sharing and reminding all of us grace and beauty of life on one side and spirit on the other , holding us , guiding us through these journeys .

  16. Beautiful and heart wrenching story of your awakening. I believe we are not alone— especially as we journey within. The secret is to listen and trust the inner voice. Life is working in our favour. Blessings,

  17. Thank you Jez. Reading your story I realised I may be in the middle of the thing you describe. My situation is less severe and I’m able to function but now work only part-time. Waking most days with senseless fear and making poor life decisions has been going on for around 2 years now.
    I will look for your videos. Thanks again.

  18. Beautifully told- for me as I read this story it touched me in a way that softened a situation in my own life. I am working through deep betrayal and distrust of a loved one and as I am navigating all the deep emotions that coincide I have come to understand that my forgiveness first begins within, with my own story as I heal.

  19. My story is much the same. I can’t remember a morning I didn’t wake up without “feeling” pain in my body. Every day I was subconsciously scanning my body for illness, a programming from a family that have done the same thing my whole life. It’s like a competition who can feel the worst.

    When the neck pain started 3 years ago, it became almost unbearable to go to work, i took 7 months off last year and traveled, and my pain level subsided to almost nil. It made me realise that my routine life was the cause, or so I thought. I turned to meditation and in particular mind/body connection to manage the pain. It started my journey to oneness, to learn that we all have a conscience mind (our soul i believe) within that can observe and control the personality that is our body and mind, the vessel we all have to experience this world. I can now sit and simply observe my pain when and if it arrives and it fades away. I’m working on releasing pain energy that is locked inside me, memories of painful experiences that have coded into my subconscious. The brain that is ever thinking, the survival brain.

    My journey continues however i am now awakened to love and reject fear (the opposite emotion) whenever i recognise the negative emotions that come with this world. It is fear that manifests into pain and stress. It works. Positive thinking is the answer, the law of attraction simply brings joy when you are joyous. We cannot control everything that happens in our life but we can control how we react. Live now, create space to know your inner spirit and that we are all connected, be the observer and live in love.

    I loved your poem, may i share it please?

    • Hi Angela,

      By clicking on Jez’ name at the bottom of the article you will be able to connect with him directly about re-publishing his poem.

      Much love to you


  20. stunning powerful experience-for some of us it a health dx like cancer that provides the “crisis of self” as we buckle up the warrior gear and literally fight for our lives-whatever is the catalyst to our awakening is a blessing..

  21. Great testimony and so grateful to the author for sharing! I so relate to these experiences. However, I feel I was intuitively guided to meditation and energy medicine prior to some of my most difficult experiences. It did not stop my transformation from happening, it may have accelerated it, but, I do believed it prepared me for what was to come. I think practicing emotional release techniques has made my transition to Oneness, relatively, less extreme.

  22. We cannot undo what has happened to us. What we can do is to look at the experience in a different light, from a new angle, a changed perspective as the author did. To see it as a powerful teacher there to teach you something about yourself that’s hidden and most likely has been holding you back.

  23. It’s an incredible and beautiful story. Jez is a very brave and strong man. I too had a breakdown. Instead of follow a path such as Jez’s, I take anti-anxiety meds. Where can I find his videos?

    • All love and joy to you …

      Please click on Jez’s name at the bottom of the article to see his own website.

  24. Snippits of this story could be part of my own, Thank you for sharing this powerful message that helps to understand that it is ok to examine, to go within and draw closer to the YOU that your truly are!

  25. It happened to me. I would never like to go back there but I thank God for the experience as it brought me to where I am today. Thank you for sharing.

  26. This story describes so very much of my own journey. People who have known me most of my life, and know so many of the trials and “breakdowns” I’ve suffered, ask me how I reached the point I’m at now. One even called me her “heroine”. All I could explain was that I have a strong “faith”. There was a Presence greater than myself that seemed to accompany me on my path. Yes, “we are all spiritual beings having a human experience.” I feel I still have a purpose I have yet to accomplish — and I’m nearly 80-years old. It’s exciting to read of your (and others’) journey.

      • Lovely to read. I’m 72 this year and am still looking for answers everyday after an incident changed my life complicated with a genetic abnormality I have no control over. I am learning to live nysekf and take care care of myself more. I make efforts to get out and keep in touch with friends. I am looking at meditation and find visualuzation exercises helpful when I feel my anxiety returns. I am surprised on certain days when I review my day and am grateful for how well it went and how relaxed and contented I am feeling compared to when I take things for granted. I try not to dwell and catch myself if I start feeling sad and take time to relax or get some rest.

  27. I believe, you shuld give Jesus Christ a chance. Go to the chuech of your preference where He is preached, there is a message for you. He promises that He will give you the peace that passes all understanding

  28. This story reminds me of something I was told long ago, “You are not your mind, you are not your body, you are your spirit…

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