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Let’s Talk About Thin Privilege

By Melissa A. Fabello on Wednesday June 14th, 2017

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Changing the Status Quo Starts with Awareness

I am five-foot-four, 125 pounds. My measurements are 36-28-38. I wear size medium shirts, size seven jeans, and (in case you were wondering) size eight shoes.

I have never walked into a clothing store unable to find items in my size. I have never been asked to pay more for a seat on an airplane. I have never had someone dismiss me as a dating prospect based on my body type, nor had someone scoff, openly, while watching me eat French fries in public.

I have never experienced a doctor dismissing my concerns with a ‘lose weight, feel great!’ remedy. And I can open an article with my measurements without fear of judgment.

I walk through this world as a thin person. And as such, I have never experienced fat discrimination.

That said, I want you to know two things:

1. I am writing this article from a privileged perspective; and

2. I am not here to damn, guilt, or embarrass thin people.

But I think we need to have a talk.

Because it’s so easy to fall back on tired old excuses for why we’re not privileged – and I see this a lot when the topic of thin privilege is broached.

Fat shaming is dividing usFat shaming is yet another, less obvious, way of dividing us as people.

“How can I have thin privilege? I feel like shit about my body all the time! That’s not privilege! Besides, someone called me out on my ‘chicken legs’ the other day, and how is that different from calling someone fat? And I’m only thin anyway because I have an eating disorder, and trust me, that is not a privilege.”

And I hear what you’re saying.

But I think it’s time for us to look at these excuses (and how they don’t hold up in the grand scheme of things) a little more closely.

Grievances vs. Oppression

Let me start off by saying this: Having your feelings hurt sucks.

And I would never tell you to just ‘suck it up’ or ‘get over it.’

Because yes, sticks and stones may break your bones, but damn it, words really can hurt you. And so can the general attitudes and behaviors of others.

I’m not here to tell you that your personal grievances don’t matter.

Rather, I’m here to put those feelings into perspective.

Because personal emotional impacts simply are not the same as oppression.

Oppression involves:

the systematic subjugation of a group of people by another group of people who have access to social power, the result of which benefits one group over the other, and is maintained by social beliefs and practices.

In other words, oppression is a special kind of problem.

Opression is a special kind of problemOppression is a special kind of problem.

Here are four reasons why:

1. It is Pervasive
It is woven throughout social institutions, as well as embedded within individual consciousness.

For example, if you make a ‘fat joke,’ everyone around you is going to understand it – because the cultural belief that fat is something to laugh at is widespread.

2. It is Restricting
Structural limits significantly shape a person’s life chances and sense of possibility in ways beyond the individual’s control.

Some examples of thin privilege include: not having people presume you’re lazy and unhealthy because of your size, not having people comment on your food choices or suggest weight loss programs, not feeling embarrassed or ashamed to eat in public, not having to pay more for clothing (that is often drab and shapeless; designed to hide your body), not being charged extra to board an airplane, your appearance or weight not being the first thing people see or describe you by, and many more. By virtue of not having access to these privileges, the lives of larger people are limited.

3. It is Hierarchical
Dominant or privileged groups benefit, often in unconscious ways, from the disempowerment of subordinated or targeted groups.

Think of the example that I gave earlier about not being passed over as a dating prospect. I benefit from fat discrimination because I’m more likely to have my OKCupid message opened since I have ‘Thin’ or ‘Average’ checked off in the ‘Body Type’ box. I’m more likely to get a date.

4. The Dominant Group Has the Power to Define and Name Reality

That is, they determine the status quo: what is ‘normal,’ ‘real,’ or ‘correct.’

Take a look at (almost) any store window mannequins or fashion magazine. If thinness is heralded as the status quo, then that continues to put thin people in positions of power when it comes to determining what ‘average’ (or ‘preferable’) is.

Consumerism and the media has determined what is 'normal' or 'correct'Consumerism and the media have determined what is ‘normal’ or ‘correct.’

When you have hurt feelings – legitimate as they are – it isn’t the result of subjugation.

The negative attitudes toward you as a privileged person aren’t pervasive, restricting, or hierarchal.

You aren’t losing out on anything just because someone’s words, actions, or beliefs had an emotional impact on you.

And when you move past it – even if it takes years of work, which it very well may – that’s it. It’s over.

Oppression doesn’t work the same way.

Oppression never goes away because everywhere you go, everything you see, and everyone you know reiterates and reinforces it.

And that’s a significant difference.

But Thin People Can Hate Their Bodies

I made a video this summer called ‘How to Get a Bikini Body.’ It repeated the oft-seen-on-social-media body-positive mantra “Put a bikini on your body!” theme.

And people were quick to comment that my message lost its meaning because my body adheres to societal beauty standards. “Easy for you to say,” they said.

And this pissed me off.

Because I wanted to be like, “Well, thin people can hate their bodies, too, ya know! Just because you think it’s ‘perfect’ doesn’t mean that I don’t struggle with it!”

Thin people are usually only victims of their own self-hateThin people are usually only victims of their own self-hate, instead of everyone else’s.

But then I realized that they were right.

Because here’s the thing: Can a thin person have body image struggles? Can a thin person be at war with their self-image? Can a thin person hate to look in the mirror?


And does that suck?


But the difference between these negative feelings and fatphobia is this: The only person worrying about whether or not I’m meeting beauty standards is me.

And that’s not the same for fat folk.

When you’re not thin, other people on the beach actually do take offence. When you’re not thin, people really do think that you shouldn’t be in a bathing suit. When you’re not thin, people really do make your body their moral obligation.

And while your internal struggle is real and significant, the point is: You might hate your body, but society doesn’t.

That’s thin privilege.


Before you worry that I’m going to disregard, or otherwise undermine, the bullying involved in skinny-shaming, let me reassure you: I’m not going to do that.

Let me address here and now (and loudly) that no one should ever be shamed for their body. I believe whole-heartedly that the body-positive community needs to be open to all body types. And absolutely, it is problematic that people engage in making fun of thin bodies.

Acceptance of all sizes is body positiveAcceptance of all sizes is body positive.

I would never tell you that jabs at your ‘chicken legs’ or insinuations (or outright proclamations) that you must have an eating disorder aren’t hurtful or that their effects aren’t far-reaching.

Because they are.

But what I am going to argue is this: As horrible as skinny-shaming is (and it is!), what makes it different is that it does not involve a pervasive fear or hatred of thin bodies.

And while its personal effects are certainly influential, it is not restrictive on a social level.

Let me be clear on two theories that explain how skinny-shaming is fundamentally different from fat-shaming:

1. Skinny-Shaming as a Response to Fat-Shaming

Have you ever heard the supposed-to-be-empowering phrase “Real Women Have Curves?” What about the cringe-worthy assertion that “Only Dogs Want Bones?”

Thin people aren’t really crazy about these. Obviously.

Real women are such because they identify as women, curves or not. And referring to someone’s partner as a dog just because they like someone’s body is degrading. Right?


You're not fingernailsWe need to change our perspective of body image.

But these types of reclamations of fat pride wouldn’t need to exist if fat-shaming wasn’t a thing.

These types of phrases and attitudes were born of a need to say “I’m beautiful, too!” They’re responses to social norms.

And while you can argue that they’re misguided, they’re actually challenging fatphobia.

And while you certainly shouldn’t encourage them if they feel like put-downs, what you need to remember about these phrases, in the words of Lindy West is,

I’m proud to be fat’ is still a radical statement. ‘I’m proud to be thin’ is the status quo.

2. Skinny-Shaming as Rooted in Sexism

It’s absolutely true that regardless of what our bodies look like, society polices them.

And that’s because patriarchal structures benefit from this policing.

And arguably, skinny-shaming is rooted in this type of sexism.

Society wants you to recognize that being thin is ‘in’ – but not too thin, not that thin – because the goal is to keep you insecure.

Take a look at any tabloid cover.

The “So-and-So Has Cellulite!” headline is right next to the “Does So-and-So Have an Eating Disorder?” story. And they both convey the same message: “Ew! Gross!”

Tabloids make us insecureSociety wants to keep us insecure so it can capitalize on us.

For fuck’s sake, we just can’t win.

And not to go all conspiracy theory on you, but that’s exactly what they want.

They (and you can insert anyone you want here for ‘they’ – society, the media, the dieting industry, the executive board for Patriarchy, Inc.) want women to continue to chase after unattainable goals.

But the difference is that the discrimination that fat people experience is at the intersection of sexism and fatphobia. That is, there’s another layer to it.

So while, yes, shaming anyone is wrong and bad and sexist, fat-shaming is rooted in extra factors that skinny-shaming is not.

So they’re not the same.

Well, I Have an Eating Disorder, So ‘Privilege’ Doesn’t Apply to Me

The blog This Is Thin Privilege details, “When we explain that thin privilege exists despite eating-disordered status, we’ve had thin people with [eating disorders] take offense.”

And I get why that is. Because having an eating disorder is serious.

And when you feel trapped in and controlled by your body, when you’ve reached that level of self-consciousness, when you’re suffering every single day just to make it through, it’s unlikely that you’ll feel like you’re experiencing privilege.

Because an eating disorder feels like a curse.

But, as This Is Thin Privilege explains:

I think it’s important to note that disability is its own underprivileged status, and in this case, thin people with [eating disorders] are conflating the oppression they feel for lacking able-bodied privilege with a negation of their thin privilege.

That is: The marginalization that you experience as a person living with an eating disorder is a result of the disorder, not a result of your body.

We all deserve acceptanceWe all deserve acceptance and fair treatment, regardless of our appearance.

You experience illness. You experience stigma. You experience symptoms and effects of your disorder. But that doesn’t negate your thin privilege.

A man of color can experience racism and still benefit from his male privilege. An able-bodied woman can experience sexism and still benefit from her able-bodied privilege. A poor, white farmer can experience classism and still benefit from his white privilege.

A person with an eating disorder can experience ableism and still benefit from their thin privilege.

Being marginalized in one area doesn’t negate your privilege in another.

Privilege can be a difficult thing to talk about. It’s easy to feel defensive when you mistake someone’s asking you to check your privilege for their making assumptions about your life.

But the bottom line that we have to remember is this: Are my negative experiences related to my body grievances, or are they pervasive issues on a societal level?

And if you have your thin privilege in check, you’ll be better able to recognize that most of the time, these issues fall into the former category.

*We do not endorse unhealthy lifestyles, instead, we encourage being healthy in mind and body, and accepting ourselves and others as human beings, regardless of our appearances.

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Words By Melissa A. Fabello

Originally posted on Everyday Feminism, Intersectional Feminism For Your Everyday Life



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14 Comments on "Let’s Talk About Thin Privilege"

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Sa Poplick
Sa Poplick
I think the word privilege is over used. And great here is another reason to hate someone! I grew up in a time that thin was looked was looked down on! I was the skinny kid whose parents were acused of child abuse and neglect. Always last to get picked for a team because “well shit girl you too skinny!” Avoided and unpopular because “She must be sick or something!” This aithor doesn’t know wth she is talking about! Privileged? Try finding a 00 extra long! You can be thin not too thin and if you are thin then damn… Read more »
Sa Poplick
Sa Poplick
I have had some weight issues on both sides. My husband always complained when I was overweight. Everyone else griped when I was thin. It is like I said there is an unrealistic body image, the Barbie body I call it, that people think is ideal. The truth is there is no such thing. What we need to teach our children is to be kind to everyone. We all bleed red regardless of our body shape, our body height, our body weight, or our skin color. Privilege is just a term devised by a PC fueled liberal mind to divide… Read more »

Oh yeah, you nailed it. I can’t stand the preaching about “thin privilege” … total bullshit. I have a lifetime of insults behind me about me being too little,having no boobs, no butt, not curvy like a “real woman.” I HATE articles of this sort, because they are trying to *shame* segments of the population for something they have no control over while saying they are victimized over something *they* have no control over.
Well, I say ” Fuck that !”
How is that not hypocritical!????
Body shaming is body shaming. Plain & simple.

Aliza Hava
Aliza Hava

Good article. However, your use of the phrase “fat folk” is very insulting and undermines the very point you are trying to make. As much as you are attempting to bring awareness to this very real issue, your choice of language reveals that you are actually part of the problem.

“Fat folk” are PEOPLE first, not FAT first.


More than two-thirds (68.8 percent) of adults are considered to be overweight or obese in America… how is that a minority? This article is like a parody of itself…

Dr. Michelle Gale

A minority is defined by its subjugation, not its population numbers.

Confused By Your Ignorance
Confused By Your Ignorance

That is literally not the definition of minority.

Something has changed in the last 30 years because my weight has gone up a little bit but now people comment ‘you are slim’ . 30 years ago my weight was just considered normal and not worth commenting on. According to the weight chart at the doctors I am roughly in the middle of the normal weight band – it is just that society around me has become much much heavier particularly in the UK. Because overweight people are now in the majority the discourse is changing. Very similar to: most people drink alcohol and so we regard that as… Read more »
Ryan Holt
Ryan Holt
This is some seriously happy horseshit. I’m a little over weight now for my standards. I have been 260 after a bout with depression. And a year later I was 180. Now I’m in the low 200s and should really be at 190. I keep on weight more than “thin” people. But my body is a result of my choices. not just now but throughout life. I have had yo-yo weight issues all my life. But those are my issues that are a result of my choices. Being overweight DOES say something about you. It says something about your choices… Read more »
Confused By Your Ignorance
Confused By Your Ignorance
I was a chubby kid with a childhood full of neglect, bullying, and emotional abuse, which lead to being a large adolescent, and currently an overlarge adult. I also discovered that I have a medical condition that makes it almost impossible for me to lose weight. No, it’s not impossible, it’s just almost impossible. At 250 lb, I still somehow manage to not get stared at when I eat out in public, I still somehow manage to find pretty and cool clothes that fit me, and I still manage to have an active social life despite my weight. I’m not… Read more »