Let’s not commit to a future together.
The future is so unknown, and we are so fluid, and tired of pretending that we know.
Our thoughts and feelings are ever-changing, uncontrollable, like a wild ocean of love.
Our desires wax and wane; our dreams are born and die in every moment.
Let’s not commit to a form of love. The forms are always shifting, like the tides.
We do not need security here.
We are not seeking comfort, but Truth.
Let’s make a deeper commitment; one that cannot be broken or lost.
To presence. To meeting in the here-and-now.
To bringing all of ourselves.
To knowing, and letting ourselves be known.
To telling the truth, today; knowing that our truth may change tomorrow.
To bowing before each other, even if our hearts are broken and tender.
No promises, no guarantees.
Loving takes courage! Yes!
For love is a field, not a form.
Love is a field, not a form.Let us commit to the field, remember the field in every moment of our precious days on this Earth.
In ten years time, we may still be together. We may have children. We may live together, or live apart.
We may never see each other again. This may be our last day.
If we are honest, we really do not know; not knowing is our Home.
We may be friends, or lovers, or strangers, or family, or we may remain undefined, beyond narrative, our love unable to be captured in words.
Here at the edge of the known, on the line that once divided sanity from madness, and doubt from certainty, we play, we dance, we drink tea, we touch each other, we cry, we laugh, we meet.
We sacrifice comfort and predictability. But what we gain is astonishing: This tremendous sense of being alive…
A little raw, perhaps. A little shaky. Maybe a little disoriented, but perhaps this is the price of being totally free.
Maybe an old part of us still seeks mommy or daddy,
that Magic Person who will never leave, always be there, take away the loneliness repressed in our guts.
Loving that frightened part too; bowing to that part too, but no longer being controlled by it.
Only Truth will satisfy. A living Truth, the wild Truth of the open heart.And they will ask:
What about your future?
What happens if you have children?
How the hell do you define yourselves?
Why are you afraid of commitment?
Why do you run from security? Comfort? Future?
They will say you are crazy, or you don’t understand love, or you are lost, or you are unloving and selfish, and you will smile, and understand their fear…
At some point, only Truth will satisfy. A living Truth, renewing itself each and every moment, the wild Truth of the open heart.
When Love and Truth are One, when the Commitment is deeply rooted in the breath, we can finally face each other without resentment and explode into the most melancholy sunsets, held in the most profound joy.
Walking alone, together, alone.
The ego manipulation – wild love, wild game ….. so similar to social old schemes, only reversed :)) So many words does not look like not knowing.
Indeed. Presence and detachment are very important aspects of love. The exclusion of other forms and aspects of love is ideology.
The Soul-Mate Relationship
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=38-9LUA_0rc&feature=youtu.be
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=n1eDIdXU8YQ&feature=youtu.be
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hDmj5ofhrS4&feature=youtu.be
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZmigKz-xPBQ&feature=youtu.be
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rI1Dlc28lWQ
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=R3QMDlFti4Y&t=247s
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=thM2r6pBzJk
Sexual Attraction
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cW0FkfhUHAc&feature=youtu.be
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=td_RHkRfIj8&feature=youtu.be
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CjBketDnlFs&feature=youtu.be
Great Read . Enjoyed it
It’s very cool to see someone with the same two names.. never seen Eva Carmen before! Sorry very off-topic but it had to be said!
Lovely poem. Thank you.
(In my opinion no woman could have written such a piece though.. )
why do you say that?
Exactly this. We live in a society where too many women are left to raise the children of men who do not commit to the life-long responsibility of having children. Don’t misunderstand, there are plenty of men who are left to raise the children but at least society pays them a wage that comes closer to covering the cost. How does one explain the coming and going of a free-loving parent to a child or children who need that love? This idea that adults can check in and out with the wind destroys the hearts and souls of young children pleading, begging, yearning to be raised by someone who loves them. This breaks children.
When one cannot define their relationship it brings insecurity and lack of trust leading to heartbreak . Shallow and emotionally degenerate. I agree with you Trish and Eva no woman could have written that. People do grow apart sometimes as we know but not always and I believe in commitment.
I think that young children also long for authenticity, for a parent who is true to herself/himself and doesn’t compromise their heart and stays in a relationship that is unloving simply for the child. Children are very sensitive and can easily sense that, can easily sense when a parent is not really happy and has given up their true heart (thinking that that would give security to the family). I doubt whether a dead human being, who has given up their heart and stays just for the sake of maintaing a (false) structure, can truly provide security and true life lessons for a child. I don’t think so, not in the real sense of security and learning. Her/his compromise might provide a superficial form of apparent security, but what message does the child actually get from such a parent? That you cannot truly be happy in this world. That you must sacrifice your true inner knowing for the sake of others, that you must abandon yourself for the sake of others, only then will will people respect. That is the message being conveyed to the child by such a parent (that stays despite knowing in her/his heart that she/he shouldn’t), isn’t it?
And by the way, separated parents can still love the child deeply. VERY VERY deeply. and provide him a great deal of attention and security (which is what a child truly needs, isn’t it? real attunemtn and real listening, not a fake being there half heartely, out of compromise) I have seen it with my own eyes.
In fact, it might actually be that a person who is true to themselves, true to their heart, and has left a relationship out of a deep listening to her/his real needs, can actually love a child in a much more honest and deep way, because she/he don’t live a life of compromise, but live a life of truth, and truth is never stable, is always changing, always growing (as much as we might not like it, but that is the way of the world – constant movement, there are no real guarantees, as upsetting as that may sound, but that is the truth, the actual way things are.)
And lastly, I don’t really understand why would anyone want to forcefully hold on to another and imprison them when the other obviously isn’t happy in this situation. Of course, the best way is to truly communicate about it, communicate at the deepest heart level, with total and absolute honesty and transparency, communicate all the pain and fear and disappointment that is in the heart, to communicate without any pre-conditions (that one MUST behave a certain way), communicate with the understanding that both people are free and mature adults, and are not slaves to be held onto. Otherwise, if this is not allowed, then what sort of relationship is this? You can call it many things, but it is most certainly NOT a loving relationship, it is a relationship of compromise and of shrivelled hearts. Is this really the best environment to raise a child? with parents who don’t really love each other but force each other to stay together “for the sake of the children”? Do you think that deep down the child doesn’t know that, doesn’t feel that? What sort of deep message is the child getting here? What sort of guiding principle for life are we teaching the child by living like that (without love and without freedom)?…
I’m a woman and I could have written that piece, word by word.
Beautiful! True love; real love; no pretence at playing a prescribed role. The love that awaits those no longer tethered by their fears or expectations…. or those of others. Its brave in our society but the only option if you follow both love and honesty, you just can’t promise love.