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No, We Won’t Calm Down!

By Robot Hugs on Sunday November 20th, 2016

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How Tone Policing Protects Privilege

“Calm down so we can discuss this like adults.”

Have you ever tone policed someone in a conversation on oppression? Tone policing focuses on the emotion behind a message, rather than the message itself.

You might think you’re helping by making the conversation more “comfortable”, but this comic by Robot Hugs makes a great point about how tone policing protects privilege – and silences people who are hurting. This is no way to get justice, and this breakdown will help you understand exactly why.

 

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Words By Robot Hugs

Originally posted on , Everyday Feminism

 

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Sylvia Staats
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No, we wont calm down 20161120 Two things come to mind after reading this. 1) This is a very elaborate and well thought out attempt at describing one of many characteristics of human behavior.Nicely done. However, it also appears to be designed to generate a degree of divisiveness. That somehow emotions and intellect must always have to be at odds, and that intellect is the process of the bully “tone policing”. I beg to differ. If you stand a little further back to grasp the larger dynamic, I think it is pretty plain to see that that BOTH intellect and… Read more »
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When our brain activates our sympathetic nervous system we actvate our fight or flight response. Our attention turns to survival verses intellectual reasoning. Even when anger does not push someone to activate the sympathetic nervous system it still short circuits critical thinking skills. Calming down allows everyone to think clearly and make more informed decisions. Sometimes science trumps social justice.

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