Right now an exciting new perspective on addiction is emerging. Johann Harri, author of Chasing The Scream, recently captured widespread public interest with his Ted talk Everything You Know About Addiction Is Wrong, where he concluded with this powerful statement:
The opposite of addiction is not sobriety. The opposite of addiction is connection. – Johann Harri
These sentiments are augmented by a growing number of experts, including addiction specialist Dr Gabor Maté, who cites ’emotional loss and trauma’ as the core of addiction. Compare this ’emotional loss’ to Johan Harri’s idea about lack of connection and it is clear they’re talking about a similar emotional condition.
Limbic Resonance
If connection is the opposite of addiction, then an examination of the neuroscience of human connection is in order. Published in 2000, A General Theory Of Love is a collaboration between three professors of psychiatry at the University of California in San Francisco. A General Theory Of Love reveals that humans require social connection for optimal brain development, and that babies cared for in a loving environment are psychological and neurologically ‘immunised’ by love. When things get difficult in adult life, the neural wiring developed from a love-filled childhood leads to increased emotional resilience in adult life. Conversely, those who grow up in an environment where loving care is unstable or absent are less likely to be resilient in the face of emotional distress.
How does this relate to addiction? Gabor Maté observes an extremely high rate of childhood trauma in the addicts he works with and trauma is the extreme opposite of growing up in a consistently safe and loving environment. He asserts that it is extremely common for people with addictions to have a reduced capacity for dealing with emotional distress, hence an increased risk of drug-dependence.
“Humans require social connection”How Our Ability To Connect Is Impaired By Trauma
Trauma is well-known to cause interruption to healthy neural wiring, in both the developing and mature brain. A deeper issue here is that people who have suffered trauma, particularly children, can be left with an underlying sense that the world is no longer safe, or that people can no longer be trusted. This erosion (or complete destruction) of a sense of trust, that our family, community and society will keep us safe, results in isolation – leading to the very lack of connection Johann Harri suggests is the opposite of addiction. People who use drugs compulsively do so to avoid the pain of past trauma and to replace the absence of connection in their life.
Social Solutions To Addiction
The solution to the problem of addiction on a societal level is both simple and fairly easy to implement. If a person is born into a life that is lacking in love and support on a family level, or if due to some other trauma they have become isolated and suffer from addiction, there must be a cultural response to make sure that person knows that they are valued by their society (even if they don’t feel valued by their family). Portugal has demonstrated this with a 50% drop in addiction thanks to programs that are specifically designed to re-create connection between the addict and their community.
“Human connection is crucial in in the immediate task of clearing trauma”Personal Solutions To Addiction
“Ask not why the addiction, but why the pain.”
– Gabor Maté
Recreating bonds is essential in the long term, but human connection is crucial in in the immediate task of clearing trauma. When a person decides to finally face and feel the pain that they may have been avoiding for years or decades, the first steps cannot be done alone.
“You have to be with that pain, but you have to have support.”
– Gabor Maté
This support is essentially the reintroduction of the care and support which is so important in creating the neural structure of emotional-resilience in early life. By doing so, we begin to replace what was missing, and thanks to the revelations of neuroplasticity we now know that you can in fact teach an old dog new tricks; neural rewiring is possible in adult life. Though it is essential for addicts to feel supported in order to finally face and feel the pain they have been trying to avoid, this is ultimately an inner journey that must be taken by the individual.
“Whatever you do, don’t try and escape from your pain, but be with it. Because the attempt to escape from pain creates more pain.”
– The Tibetan Book Of Living And Dying
The Roots Of Healing
When we are young, our parents care for us until we are able to do it for ourselves, after all they won’t be there to do it for us forever. Perhaps, on an emotional level this is also true: our parents love us so that we may learn to do it for ourselves. The programs in Portugal have demonstrated that addicts do remarkably well when they feel valued by their community. Whether they realise it or not, the Portuguese are creating positive limbic modelling by valuing the addicts so they can learn to value themselves. When people are there to provide loving support for an addict wishing to face the emotional pain they carry, they are loving them and caring for them until they can learn do love themselves. With this in mind, perhaps the neural-wiring of emotional resilience developed through the loving reflection of another, once fully developed, could simply be called self-love.
Johann Hari: Everything you think you know about addiction is wrong
Feature Image: Excerpt of an Artwork by Cameron Gray.
The neural circuitry can be rewired. Healing can occur at any age, in connection.
Very interesting, wish our society in America would take turn in this direction. Maybe then we wouldn’t have overpopulated prisons, jails and so many children in foster care there is a shortage of homes for them….
Brilliant what type of assistance can you give to someone that is not addicted to any drug although you know that they suffer similar pain just tucking it away which in turn I feel creates illness within the body I would be very interested as I know this particular person quite well and am at a loss as how to help ?
Personally i suggest something like conscious connected breathing, holotropic breathwork or shamanic breathwork.
In essence the idea is to consciously and intentionally go to the painful memories, or create a space where the buried memories are allowed to come up and basically dilute and flush through the pain with the breath. It goes a lot deeper than that, often enducing visionary experiences and deeply transformative experiences not unlike psychedelic therapy, with the advantage of being able to stop at any time.
I intend on writing another article about the correlation between personal responsibility and personal power.
She’s suffered under the demand to heal “on her own” all of this time. And where did it get her? More of the same isn’t going to work. And don’t worry about bailing. As you can see from this article and comments page, there are MANY people in the world who are stronger people than you are. Your discard is bound to meet at least one of them.
The ego thinks it controls more than it does. Letting go was part of the healing process. Respect for her path allowing it to diverge was part of the mutual growth that needed to occur. Connections can’t be unilaterally forced, no matter how “strong” one thinks one is. I’m okay with that
Sounds like AA. “We will love you until you can love yourself.”
-And its about one person talking – connecting – to another. Not judging. It’s about providing a family of people who have been there -done that. And providing a methodology – the 12 steps as a way of healing that ultimately results in making connections, healing relationships and being of service to others.
Johan Hari is a plagiarist and hack and a blogger. he is not a professional in the treatment, or recovery industry, and certainly not any kind of clinician.
http://www.theguardian.com/media/2012/jan/20/johann-hari-quits-the-independent
i agree that deep trauma healing may be required in order to get people to the point where they can connect.
have you looked at Gabor Maté’s reputation?
Ibogaine and some other psychedelics will help with certain kinds of addiction (one time use only). These entheogen restore connection to the universe around you. I do think there’s a causal connection (which needs to be verified properly with controlled studies) between trauma/loss/pain and addiction. Or it’s a really convenient excuse. 🙂
as in West Side Story: “I’m depraved on account of I’m deprived!”. It’s true and it’s not a cheap excuse, but it is only the beginning of being whole to recognize we are wounded.