Self-criticism is socially acceptable, yet self-compassion is not. Why is this? And what impact does this have on our society? These are questions Dr. Kristin Neff, Associate Professor in Human Development and Culture, has spent years researching. Today she has pioneered a new understanding of self-compassion.
Dr. Neff’s work comprises three components that work together for self-compassion: Self-kindness (rather than self-judgment), a sense of common humanity (rather than isolation) and mindfulness (rather than over-identification).
Self-compassion offers an alternative to feeling the need to see yourself as perfect, or better than others. We often tend to inflate our own egos and put others down to feel good in comparison. We need to be able to acknowledge our own weaknesses to grow as people. However, many people end up beating themselves up or feel despair when faced with their flaws.
Learn why self-compassion steps in where self-esteem lets us down.