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Why you should Forgive your Parents and How to do It

By Nanice Ellis on Monday May 1st, 2017

Let Go of Your Unworthiness Wound

On the surface, forgiving your parents (or anyone for that matter) may seem insignificant, but forgiving your mother or father is actually the best thing you can do for the quality of your life. Even low-grade parental blame and resentment perpetuate a cycle of emotional pain and suffering that can negatively affect your adult relationships, finances, and overall wellbeing, ultimately preventing the love, abundance and happiness you desire and deserve.

If you have no comparison, you might not notice the amount of energy it takes to hold onto an emotional wound or even a small grudge, but holding onto anger, resentment or any form of hostility requires a tremendous amount of life force energy and this energy is non-refundable. Decades of anger and resentment can cut years off your life, and you wouldn’t even know it. Think of it like throwing hundred dollar bills into the toilet each day, except life force energy is infinitely more valuable than all the money in the world.

The Cycle of Suffering

Without healing our childhood wounds and subsequently forgiving our parents, we stay emotionally stuck at the age of our earliest wounds, and because this causes us to repeat the cycle of suffering, we keep experiencing an adult version of our childhood wounds.

Cycle of sufferingWe repeat the cycle of suffering and keep experiencing our childhood wounds.

For instance, let’s say you haven’t forgiven your mom for missing your tenth birthday or healed the resulting feelings of abandonment; whenever this issue is triggered by a current day experience (someone forgets to call you), the original emotional wound is activated and you drop into an unconscious reaction. For all intents and purposes, you become your wounded ten-year-old self, and because you feel the same pain you felt then, you react by lashing out or shutting down.

Because an emotional reaction is an automatic response to an unhealed wound, there is little or no control over emotions or behavior, and this dynamic can result in a series of current day relationship issues. Year after year, the cumulative effect of emotional reactions can destroy the quality of our most important relationships.

Law of Attraction

According to the Law of Attraction, we unconsciously attract people who trigger our emotional wounds, and this is why a person with abandonment issues attracts potential partners who have commitment fears; not as punishment or karma but rather because our higher selves want us to heal and will use every opportunity to bring our wounds to the forefront. Unfortunately, this means that unhealed emotional wounds can prevent you from meeting your ideal partner or soul mate, and even if you do find each other, the turbulent nature of emotional wounds is known to sabotage even the most ideal partnership.

Law of AttractionWe unconsciously attract people who trigger our emotional wounds.

Blame perpetuates Pain

Blaming your parents not only keeps the wound alive, it also tells your subconscious mind that your parents currently have power over you or your life, and, therefore, blame programs you for disempowerment. Like a virus, this dynamic can spread to every facet of your life. Additionally, whenever we blame another, we become entangled with their energy and stay entangled until we let go, and, consequently, we cannot grow beyond the parent we blame.

Of course, it’s no big surprise that forgiveness is the key to emotional freedom, but, in most cases, forgiveness is easier said than done. But why?

Why is Forgiveness so Difficult?

First, you must realize that blame, anger, and various related emotions are defensive guards that protect you from future harm. Since true forgiveness requires you to release this defense, the very act of forgiveness creates emotional risk. Therefore, to forgive your parents, you must trust they won’t hurt you again, but, the hard truth is, you can never be certain – there is no way to control or predict another person’s behavior, and sometimes loving people do hurtful things.

Forgiveness is an emotional riskBefore we can forgive, we must eliminate the risk of emotional harm.

If you are still vulnerable to being hurt, forgiveness could destroy the only defense you have, and, if this is the case, your protective ego will not allow you to forgive. Therefore, before you can forgive, you must eliminate the risk of emotional harm, and this inevitably means self-responsibility.

Responsibility before Forgiveness

There’s no way around it, as long as you blame or shift responsibility in any regard, you give others the power to hurt you, and as long as you give others the power to hurt you, you’re going to be hurt. Therefore, the only way to prevent emotional harm is by releasing blame and taking full responsibility for every emotion you experience, but there is no point assuming responsibility if you don’t also uncover the dynamics behind your childhood issues. Therefore, to make yourself immune to emotional harm, you must pinpoint the hidden cause of your childhood wounds, and once you do, I will show you how to heal it now.

Understanding the True Nature of Emotional Wounds

We often confuse an emotional wound with the event or experience that caused the wound, but the actual wound is not the situation or circumstance. An emotional wound is the disempowering belief we adopted in response to the experience. Without needing to analyze the details, the core emotional wound is virtually always unworthiness, and, in fact, unworthiness (or conditional worthiness) is the core wound of every other emotional wound.

Emotional woundAn emotional wound is the disempowering belief you adopt in response to an event.

All children have emotional needs that must be met to feel worthy of love and life; these needs include approval, acceptance, appreciation, understanding, validation, respect, and so on. Although children require all emotional needs to be fulfilled, one emotional need almost always stands out from the rest, and because this is usually the need least met, it is the emotional need most associated with worth, and, as a result, it becomes the child’s Primary Emotional Need (PEN).

Children naturally adopt beliefs that explain why one or both parents fail to provide this emotional need, so when a child doesn’t receive approval, for example, the child naturally believes she is unworthy of approval, or more likely, she believes she must meet certain conditions to prove she is worthy. Hypersensitive to this need being met, she automatically interprets approval as proof of worthiness and judgment as proof of unworthiness, and this is why judgment can cause intense emotional pain even in adulthood.

Here’s the thing: like every human being, you were born unconditionally worthy, and there is absolutely nothing you can do to prove, improve, or disprove worth. Therefore the emotional pain associated with believing you are unworthy is due to the fact it is completely untrue! Emotional pain is a warning system that alerts you to false beliefs.

Warning signEmotional pain is a warning system that alerts you to false beliefs.

Why do we need to be Warned of False Beliefs?

All disempowering beliefs, such as unworthiness, powerlessness, and victimhood, put us into survival mode, and over time can cause chronic and acute issues with serious repercussions, and, therefore, we need a warning system that alerts us to debilitating beliefs. This warning system is emotion, and, in fact, the purpose of emotional pain is to alert you to the fact you believe a falsehood. Just like physical pain alerts you the second you prick your finger with a knife, so you won’t cut your whole finger off, emotional pain alerts you to harmful beliefs so you can release them.

Without knowing that emotional pain is a sign of a false belief, most of us wrongly interpret this pain; so whenever we feel the emotional pain associated with unworthiness, the pain makes us believe the belief is true, thereby strengthening the belief and deepening the wound, and this perpetuates a cycle of emotional pain.

Furthermore, this internal warning system will stop at nothing to make you aware of a false belief, and, in fact, with increasing amplification, you will attract continuous opportunities that trigger emotional pain until you finally pay attention and release the false belief that is responsible for the pain. All emotional healing is releasing disempowering beliefs.

A cycle of emotional painFalse beliefs caused by childhood wounds can lead to a cycle of emotional pain.

Entangled in the conscious or unconscious belief that worth depends on getting our parents to meet our emotional needs, we grow into adults, still expecting one or both parents to give us what we need to feel worthy. But, this just sets us up for more pain because it never works.

Why don’t Parents meet their Children’s Emotional Needs?

First of all, even the most well-intentioned parents often fail to meet their children’s emotional needs, and, in most cases, emotional wounds have nothing to do with parental love. Oftentimes, childhood emotional wounds are by-products of parenting style or our parent’s unhealed wounds or family issues, such as financial challenges, divorce, or a family member’s addiction, disease, mental illness or chronic depression.

Although parental judgment, criticism, and comparison to siblings or other children are the most common causes of the worthiness wound, almost any dynamic can set the stage, for instance, when a parent is over-protective or over-controlling, a child may feel disrespected and develop the belief he is unworthy of respect, and he may conclude he is untrustworthy, or when a child is told to be seen but not heard, she may develop the belief she is not worthy to speak, or she may believe she is not important.

Failure to meet emotional needsThe most well-intentioned parents often fail to meet their children’s emotional needs.

In most cases, a child’s emotional wounds deepen over time, and as the child matures into adulthood, the wound matures accordingly; manifesting as problematic relationships, financial concerns, career challenges, and health issues, while also making it difficult to pursue one’s dreams and desires.

Many adult children protect themselves from parental judgment and manipulation by closing their hearts and putting up energetic barriers, but despite the defensive quality of anger and blame, it doesn’t protect us from emotional pain because the shield actually keeps the pain inside while it also prevents healing. Regardless of age, every time your parents fail to meet your Primary Emotional Need, feelings of disappointment feed unworthiness and often lead to powerlessness.

The Unworthiness Wound causes Powerlessness

Do you still need parental approval, acceptance, validation or permission to feel worthy? If so, do you conceal behaviors that don’t meet your parent’s expectations?

This dynamic is quite common in most adults, but there is a huge cost involved because whenever you suppress authentic expression in exchange for approval or acceptance, for example, you inadvertently give away your power. In fact, it is impossible to expect your parents to meet your emotional needs and make you feel worthy without giving them your power.

Giving your power awayIf you continue to crave parental approval then you are giving your power away.

Consequently, the relationship is based on dysfunctional dynamics where you remain a powerless child who is vulnerable to being hurt. Not only does this make you susceptible to parental judgment and criticism, it also makes you vulnerable to manipulation through guilt and obligation.

Although blame is a natural response to powerlessness, it actually tells your subconscious mind that the parent you are blaming has power over you, and, therefore, blame perpetuates more powerlessness. Indeed, you won’t be able to heal your emotional wounds or forgive your parents as long as you blame them for making you feel powerless and unworthy. This is why self-responsibility is the cure, and, in fact, self-responsibility is the only thing that can solve your issues.

Self-responsibility means that you must own your unconditional worth and you must take back your power by releasing the expectation that your parents meet any of your emotional needs, and this also includes releasing the need for apology, acknowledge, or retribution.

You are worthySelf-responsibility means that you must own your unconditional worth.

Give to yourself what you Need from your Parents

As you take responsibility for your life and your choices, you must stop seeking parental permission and emotional support, and, in fact, you don’t even need your parents to believe in you or your dreams. The same reasons your parents didn’t meet your needs in childhood are the same reasons they still don’t. So you can let them off the hook and release all expectations!

Finally, when you know your unconditional worth, and you own your intrinsic power, your parents can’t hurt you emotionally, and, consequently, forgiveness becomes possible.

As dysfunctional dynamics dissolve, it gives way to a new paradigm of relationship based on unconditional worth and self-empowerment. The foundation of this deeper connection is clear boundaries, and, in fact, boundaries can take you from a powerless child to an empowered adult in a heartbeat. Indeed, your personal power is only as strong as your boundaries.

Boundaries are Key

As an adult-child, it is up to you to set boundaries with your parents. Initially, it might feel uncomfortable, but, over time, strong boundaries will strengthen the relationship and allow for a deeper connection. So, to create a positive adult relationship with your parents, what boundaries do you need as an empowered adult?

Boundaries with parentsStrong boundaries will strengthen the relationship and prevent conflict.

Keep in mind, a boundary of respect, for example, is vague and you probably need to define the parameters of respect, so clearly and specifically spell it out in terms of communication and interaction. In all likelihood, you will need to teach your parents how to treat you, speak to you, and behave in ways that reflect respect. It’s also a good idea to invite your mom and dad to establish their boundaries and do your very best to honor them, as well.

Boundaries are set through Intention but Established with Attention

Effective boundaries require integrity, and this means that you must back-up every boundary with proper and consistent attention. Therefore, don’t expect your parents to automatically know when they are encroaching on a boundary. When people are used to behaving in habitual ways, it takes time to recognize new boundaries and reorganize new behavior accordingly. This means that it’s your responsibility to protect your boundaries, and, therefore, confidently give clear feedback; tell your mom or dad when they are crossing (or about to cross) a boundary.

Benefits of childhood woundsEmotional challenges in childhood can lead to positive qualities later in life.

However, if either parent doesn’t respect your boundaries, don’t be afraid to limit interactions accordingly, but let them know why, so they have the necessary information to change their behavior. Believe it or not, most parents will eventually learn to respect boundaries, but only if you consistently enforce them first.

Reaping the Rewards

No matter how it seems, childhood wounds always leverage hidden gifts, such as independence, wisdom, or compassion, and without emotional challenges, our best attributes might never be revealed. If you haven’t yet recognized the positive qualities that sprung from your childhood wounds, now would be a wonderful time to do so because the recognition itself can be extremely healing. Indeed, the point is to heal the wounds but keep the benefits!

Finally, always remember that forgiveness is never for the person being forgiven. Forgiveness is the gift you give yourself.

 

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39 Responses to Why you should Forgive your Parents and How to do It

  1. The article makes a lot of sense, explains why some people are more needy than others and constantly seek praise and approval.

  2. Ask a formerly abused child about this bullshit. Missing your 10th birthday? Oh please give me a break. Try forgiving your parents and build a relationship with them after they almost killed you.

    • I think there are far worse abuses than just missing a birthday. There are parents who don’t even remember your name .when I was at the age of 14, my father in my case. Believe me, even this is the very least worst thing he did compared to what he did all my life and still doing. But the article describes some core emotions I am still feeling. Letting it go is still unbearable. Forgiving seems impossible. I really want to but the pain is too much to do it. It is not that easy.

  3. My father was mentally ill and as i a child i was highly intelligent. Was mensa . My father wounld never allow me to be happy and be relaxed. He would prod me and instigate and when i would react he would threaten to put me in an institution.my mother covered for him saying your father was abanoned as a child. So it gave my father the green light to abuse and damage me. I have been disabled and damaged my whole life. I just cant forget the trauma he put me through. It affected my relationships.

  4. Great advice for people who grow up entitled, thinking that mom and dad owed them a pony. Great if you are not mature enough to recognise that your parents had struggles financially… Or other common issues. But this is complete bulkshit if you were physically, emotionally, mentally abused by your parent. Just like don’t tell an abused child that their parents loved them.
    Oh and you can give your kid that pony and a puppy, and everything they could want, love, time etc…and they can still grow up to be apathetic and cruel. You can grow up in an abusive environment and grow up to be loving, empathetic, and responsible.
    Your environment only plays a small role.

    • Rather, environment plays a big role. It just the opposite, as example given with abusive turns out nice, coz it is what the child lacks to experience or what he/she yearns for.

      It is a big factor coz exposure to specific situations, which is the environment, makes the person aware of such things and explains the behavior as coping mechanism. Hope you get what I mean ?

      • Dear Amelia, I know what you mean, it is so hard. But forgiveness is for you, not the other. 🙂 It’s learning that yes, this happened to me, this person did it to me, but I release them, I let them go, and in turn you free yourself. You don’t have to ever see them again, talk to them and you aren’t condoning their behavior. A guided visualization a lady on youtube helped me a lot, unforgiveness is like a wrought iron gate around your heart, those you don’t forgive are locked in there with your heart, you dont’ want to keep them there, she said to close your eyes and visualize you put in the key and open the door and let them out, release them in love, release all ties, give them back to their maker.
        <3

  5. Hard to forgive continual mind fuckery. For many, they are forced to go no contact or low contact just to save their own mental well being.

    • Totally agree. And then the guilt that articles like this create because there is no way to stay sane with contact just makes it worse!

  6. Both of my parents are gone. I’ve struggled with unworthiness, trying to prove I’m worthy, for the majority of my life. I’m sure my parents did as well. They were the products of their upbringing. After years of figuring out why I behaved and led my life in this blaming, unworthy state of mind, I now take care to recognize that pattern within me, and realize I don’t need to prove myself. I am worthy, I am loved and loving. We are all doing the best we can at any given moment… And to keep reminding myself of that fact. So are YOU.

  7. As complex beings we hurt and we hurt others often not intentionaly but through ignorance or disfunction in our own family background.
    To forgive releases us from negative posionous thinking,only when we learn to forgive can we learn to fully live, some people have a lot to forgive parent’s for but it’s when you do it you find you were really the prisoner because bitterness is a poison we drink ourselves expecting the other person to die, why let someone who has cruelly interacted in your past life have the opportunity to continue to destroy your future. Forgivness is about releasing yourself it dosen’t mean you ever have to sit or visit with that person again, but knowing you have no intention of harm or ill will toward them then go live the life that you deserve.

  8. Great article. Although I guess I always knew deep down, it helped me to become consciously aware of my unworthiness false belief. There’s work to do. Thanks for sharing.

  9. The text is a great explanation of the inner mechanics of feeling unworthy and the resulting difficulties in your relationships all your later life. True and helpful.
    It just doesn’t offer any help on the ‘how’. How can one forgive? How do you let go of the grudge and pain?

    • by giving yourself all of the thing u expect from your parent
      the grudge and pain just there for u to notice all this stuff
      love yourself 🙂

  10. A shining example of why liberal arts are so reviled. While a useful idea the entire article could be reduced to the last sentence. Otherwise a mass of opinion or unsupported theory presented as “fact”. Still, after wading through it, good stuff.

  11. Was emotionally and physically abused as a child. The impact on my life has been very clear. I have released and forgiven incidents but never tried to address the lack of emotional support it created. Thank you for this article. I think it will help me get over my trust issues that I am currently working on. I will say boundaries and space make a big difference. And understanding my parents are just repeating the patterns from their own childhoods. It doesn’t make it acceptable, just lets me release the blame and take back my power to control my reactions.

  12. Curious, would you write a similar article to a rape or attempted murder victim or victim of some other potentially life destroying crime pressuring them to forgive and not seek justice from their perpetrator? If you wouldn’t, then I don’t see why this article is appropriate, either. Some parents perpetrate crimes on their children that destroy their children’s lives. If it was between adults, justice would be demanded and rendered. But since it is done to a helpless child, we are just supposed to forgive and stop blaming. No justice, no peace. How about working towards getting more justice and protection for children and education, support, standards, and accountability for parenting so these most defenseless of beings don’t have to suffer whatever torture their parents inflict on them (I am with the person who scoffed at the example of a wound being a parent missing your 10th birthday). If that is the depth of your wounding, maybe this article could be for you. But if you’ve been severely neglected, abused, or abandoned, I don’t think this is enough and it may even be wrong to tell ppl their innate human need for some measure of justice and recognition is just not important and they’re just going to have to forgive and move forward with no reparations. Sometimes ppl literally don’t even have what they need to survive due to their parents’ neglect, abuse or abandonment.

  13. I don’t believe in anything that says ‘should’ anywhere. No one should have to do anything, especially when it comes to emotionally neglectful parents. Because most of the time, they don’t do the work to look at their behaviour and and as a result nothing changes. Its often just a different mask on their part.

  14. This was immensely helpful. I had a violent father and my mother did nothing to stop him (and was pretty cruel herself at times). I still have a relationship with them and for some reason I always go back looking for love only to be hurt when it isn’t there. Most recently I had a serious health problem with eye watering medical bills not covered by my insurance. My parents are millionaires. They didn’t come to visit me in hospital despite my begging, they denied I was ill, called my doctor a “quack” and then (although initially offering when I told them the size of my medical bills), they then refused to help financially. To put this in context, I am a 27 year old oxford educated lawyer at a top firm and I have never asked them for a penny. Anyway this for me was the final straw after years of emotional abuse following the physical abuse I endured as a child (which still plays on my mind most days). The feeling I had had all along that my parents didn’t love me I realised was true. I for the first time became so angry and disgusted with them. I was finding it so hard to get past this anger. This article made me realise that this anger just continues to wound myself and that forgiveness isn’t weak. The roots of a lot of the positives in my life today stem from the pain I have had endured due to my parents – I was always so desperate to be independent that I wrote in my diary at 10 that I would get a good job that pays a lot of money (check and check). I am the friend people go to when things go wrong, because I know what it is like to hurt and I tell them the words I always wanted to hear in those situations but never did. I am resourceful, because growing up I knew I had no one else in my corner – the only reason I found a cure (if at a price) is because I refused to accept that I had a progressive incurable disease. After just the first two sessions with this expensive doctor I could walk again and he said he was amazed I had found him so fast, that most of his patients wind up with him as a last resort having been disabled for 10 years. In fact when I think about it that way – the wounds my parents inflicted on me have ultimately saved my life. I am not going to let the anger take over the rest of my life and I will own my wounds as making me the person I am today.

  15. I was abused by a father who (I only recently discovered) was a narcissist. He is deceased. I want to release the anger but I don’t know how. How does one do that?

  16. This Article is very Logical and Practical.It is of a great use for emotionally hurted people! Must Read Article!

  17. I am so amazed at how the universe knows and then provides exactly what we need and at the exact time we need it. I’ve been working on clearing negative stuff because we’re in the process of ascension, at present. But as much progress as I’ve made, I can’t seem to get pass the issue of forgiveness. Anger and blame at my parents have colored my entire life and all relationships, just as stated in the article. And I’ve struggled like crazy in life, not accomplishing what I want and am capable of without ever understanding why. This information resonates with me and I am grateful. Thank you.

  18. This was one of the greatest revealing article I had read in a long Time. I think I could truly comprehend with some of it’s teachings. I am very thankful for that and for you to sharing this with us.
    Love

  19. Can you explain what wound made me attract a gay husband? I am going through the biggest shock of my life. How is this related to my parents?

  20. This article has helped me to see I am worthy and don’t have feel not wanted by my parent anymore. Thank you. for these Words of advice.

  21. I’m havig very hard time forgiving my parents. They took my childhood at such a young age.. my mother left my brother and I and chased some man.. she promised she would come back and she never did!! I needed her ! I’m lost I’m confused ! I need my parents love and they don’t even care. I had to be adopted by my grandma because my parents didn’t come back like they said they would!! I’m still struggling trying to find a way. My father used to beat my mom and beat me and my brother and now I can’t even sleep at night because I get nightmares about it. They hurt us and I can’t even move on in my life because I’m so angry at them. I wanna have a relationship with my father and make new memories and forgive him. But idk I’m afraid. I have to hide how I feel with the comedy I bring to my family making them laugh and smile because I know how it feels to be miserable I’m afraid to be a parent one day because I don’t wanna be like my parents. When I sing I try to let out how I feel all the pain I have from them and it doesn’t really work because I haven’t forgiven them.. but I’m gonna keep trying and I know deep in my heart I will find a place for them again but I just need help doing that

    • I was my mother’s slave because I was the oldest girl of 8 kids. I watched my younger brothers and sisters and remember getting up in the middle of the night to feed my sister then get up and go to school. I did all the housework while my mother watched soap operas. When my dad came home she would act busy. I could not wait to leave home. I got married at 17. I am 62 now and been married 3 times and dated men who treated me with NO respect whatsoever. I could never talk to my parents. I had no emotional support from either of them. It was until my mother was on her deathbed that I told her what I missed growing up from her. She told me she was sorry. She told me for the first time that she loved me. It took 62 years. What a waste.

  22. Good article..but forgiving a parent who still is abusive and boundaries only anger them.in an unfortunate situation to get back on my feet after a traumatic situation, depending on them temporarily, only subjects to continual toxic relationship.
    Fixing and healing is more complicated than just to forgive:(

  23. Some families are just toxic and although you may forgive them, often you just have to remove yourself completely from that environment. Forgiveness doesnt fix everything but removing yourself from the toxicity can, over time.

  24. An interesting article with lots of good parts in it, but also a real strange one, which reminds me somehow of the “positive thinking approach”:

    Blame and anger are IMO *not* in the way of forgiveness! They are the way to forgiveness! Because they teach you how to protect yourself. They teach you your power, where you felt powerless.

    The authors blaming of the blame is IMO part of his childhood-conditioning. Because as a child you are not welcome to blame your parents.

    And also: The emotional pain is not a reaction to the false believe of unworthiness. It is the other way around: The false believe of unworthiness is a reaction to emotional pain.

    My 2 cents. 😉

    What do you think?

    • i think anger is indeed the reaction we make to protect ourself but blame on the other hand is the things that give the power to other. we blame because we cant really control other people act toward us. so instead of blaming we can always try to be proactive of our act hence focusing the power of our own action.
      im not really understand about the emotional pain stuff, so will read more from other source

  25. Being a parent and bringing up children is the hardest job in the world especially if you have suffered yourself as a child and do not know how to handle a given situation, you pass on your reactions to your children because you do not know any better. As an adult if you can see through their faults, all to the good, then foregiveness and healing can begin

  26. Life must truly be easy for you if all you have to forgive is a missed birthday. Try forgiving being molested by father and mother knowing about it and blaming you for it. Learning from your own daughter that your father was starting to molest her and again grandma knew and pushed under carpet reporting it to police and mommy dearest telling you that if your father died from the stress she would never forgive you. Trust me when I say forgiving those that betrayed you is never simple and this article is BS.

  27. this is all well and fine provided your parents are not predatory psychopaths feeding off of your misery and the only way to possibly escape or let go is when they die. I am praying mine does.

  28. I am a psychologist and I often work with abused children. This article is disgraceful. There is a reason child abuse is a crime. Articles like this perpetuate abusive patterns, and self-blame. You have no idea how much harm articles like this cause.

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